Trying to help a Mate

[Worried_Mate]

Hi All

For about 2 months, I have been trying to help a mate (of 25yrs) through what I think is depression,

He's just under 50 yrs old

He tells me through boredom, he started with gambling, which resulted in losing all his savings, to my knowledge around 100k,

He has a house, 1yr old Car, Motorbike, and a job

normally, he is a strong willed person, intelligent, stable, and the rest

I am speaking to him on the phone 1-2 times a day, just to see how he's going, he tells me his head feels like its going to explode, and he says he feels like he's losing his mind

currently I am just listening and I talk to him about the positives he has, and that he will look back and reflect on this time of life

i,m unsure if this is helping, but he says Sorry about all of this and thank you very much every call

Just this morning I mentioned calling B/Blue, I sms'ed him the number while on the phone to him,

I have discussed this with my wife, so she can tell me if i,m going of track

I suppose, I would like to know what may arise, what may come up next, if any, and any other things to try ?

Is 2 months at the start or in the middle?, and what stage is he at ?

Cheers

[Hang10]

Hi Worried Mate,

Totally agree with Happygoluckymiss, You a great mate that I believe has saved a life. I wish your mate all the best. I shore that they will help him with his mental health. If you can and like too please keep us updated how he going. So many beyond blue team care about yas.

Hang10.

[blondguy]

Hi WM

Thanks for sticking with us on this difficult matter

Firstly....he ate his Red Rooster.....That is a bonus...as appetite can sometimes with depression.

Going to hospital was a smart move WM....The stigma with hospitals and our mental well being belongs in the 1960's and 70's. He will have the care he needs

Can I ask why he is so anti-meds? Its no different to having medication for a physiological condition

The absence or lack of sleep is a classic red flag where having an 'exhausted' mind is concerned. I went through the same not to mention losing our financial security

you are a serious legend WM

my kind thoughts

Paul

[Worried_Mate]

Hi All

Thanks for all of the support you all are giving ,... It is good to reassured that i,m going in the right direction

To update you all, my mate had gone to hospital Friday morning and was getting assistance, they persuaded him to have the meds, and he did seem a lot better, which I mentioned to him, But for some reason he must have known someone that has been through hospital and the meds, It's like he knew what was coming

He asked me if I could get him out of there,......

I told him , "these people are on your side, they will do the best for you", on Sunday morning they allowed him to "sign" himself out, he called to let me know of this

He does sound a lot better , in his speech, his thinking, which I put this down to the meds

I spoke to him this morning and he sounded good, he was out visiting his mother, and he did mention that going to the hospital has helped greatly, and he's glad he did go

Again ,... Thank you for reading / Listening,...

I'll keep you informed

[blondguy]

Hey WM

Thank-you for the good news 🙂 I really hope he finds some peace in his life WM.

Great to have you with us and good on you for having the care factor you possess too

my kind thoughts

Paul