Suggestions please?

[mgt]

How do you get someone help if they won't admit they a suffering from depression?

[geoff]

dear Mgt, welcome to the site.

The question you have asked is quite a common one, because being in denial is a major concern, because that's what happened with me, and I refused any help, but it changed one day when something awful happened, which made me realise I needed help.

Admitting to having depression to those who are in denial could indicate a weakness, although they may not say it, it's how they feel.

Can I ask how long this has been going on for, and if you click on 'Resources' at the top of this page and order the printed material from BB they will send a great deal of information out to you, it's all free, but worth while getting it, then perhaps they matbe able to read it. Geoff.

[mgt]

Hi Geoff,

It's  been going on for quite some time but in the last few weeks it's become worse. This person really needs help and is causing a lot of grief between friends and family members. 

[geoff]

dear Mgt, thanks for replying back to me.

I am just about to log off as I log on early just after 12.01 am, but I appreciate and understand your predicament that you are not only in but having to face, on your point it can be annoying and frustrating, absolutely scratching your head on what to do.

There are lots of questions I would like to ask but at the moment aren't appropriate, however there are some that need to be asked, such as, the relationship between the both of of you, and exactly what has happened, the more we know the better the our response will be. Geoff.

[mgt]

Hi Geoff sorry for the late reply. I've been dealing with my own problems.

long story short...Its my daughter that I'm concerned about. She separated from her hubby about 2 years ago but was already suffering from postnatal depression at that stage. She never came through it. For the last few years I've been her total support emotionally and financially. She has 3 children. The main drama starts with the birth of the 3rd one now 14 weeks old. She had a night with her x where she ended up preg. She to.d some people it was the x's and others it was someone else's. The x doesn't want anything to do with this one. So when the question was asked by the x's dad about baby I to.d the truth where's as my daughter told him the lie. She has now got so caught up in her lie I don't think she knows what's truth. Anyway she sits in her chair texting this other person 24/7, her place is a pigsty and I'm worried about the kids. At one stage she was so down she didn't even feed them. I used to go there once a fortnight to arrange frozen meals etc so the oldest child whose on 5 could just pull something out of the freezer and zap it so they all had dinner. Breakfast, lunch and snacks were also made up ready for them. Now things have come to ahead and I'm no longer able to see the grandkids and my daughter wants nothing more to do with me. The last time I went down she was sitting in her chair on the phone ignoring the kids. I had the kids one night and they didn't want to go home. My grandson tells everyone that his mum hates him and unfortunately he's right. He asked everyone if he can come and live with them. My 2 year old granddaughter tells me mummy is yuk.  My daughter doesn't spend any Time with the kids. I'm quite worried about the kids and my daughters mental state. More so know I'm not allowed to see them. I don't know where to get help for her and she won't go to counselling. I've had to back right away as I also deal with depression, Fibromyalgia and uncontrolled type 2 diabetes and it as really dragging me down.