Hi there
i am new to forums, but can see how much support and insight they provide so am hoping that someone out there can help me. My husband was diagnosed with depression less than a week after we brought our twin babies home. He has since been completely withdrawn, sleeping at the other end of the house and refusing to help me. I have no support whatsoever . His family blame me for his condition, saying that I am obviously not doing enough and must be treating him badly or his condition would be improving. My family also refuse to help, they have little to no contact with me. My husband has just returned from three weeks in an institution for his condition, as I feel as though he is worse. Even more withdrawn, not wanting to help with the babies, not wanting to talk or even be in the same room as me. This is heartbreaking, as when his family are here is somehow finds the strength to get out of bed, have tea and biscuits with them and even take them down to the shops for lunch. He can barely be in the same room as me or the children, and some days has refused to even look at the babies. It is heartbreaking. We have been married for eight years, and have finally had babies after years of trying, and now I have been left to raise them on my own. It breaks my heart, as well as being physically exhausting.
The babies are now seven months old. This has been going on for so long, and my husband doesn't seem to want to try and make an effort for me or the children. He is talking about separating/divorcing, and I just don't know what to do. He clearly does not want to be around us, and all my efforts to connect with him seem futile. It is so hard.
I don't know what to do. I am scared and heartbroken. Please help.
