dear Bottlebrush, what you have mentioned is always a difficult decision for you to make because it involves so many issues, not only for yourself, but your children and then your husband, but also the house and all the finanial issues, but your own mental health as well as the childrens is also of prime concern.
I do know from my own depression that it took a great toll on my wife (ex) and 2 sons which I never realise until the last few years, but by then it was too late the divorce went through and our house was sold.
Some now your husband could be in denial, that is he accepts that nothing is going to help him, the medication isn't working and he has lost interest in his business, but he has to understand that if the medication doesn't do anything to him he has to go back to his doctor and get the medicine reviewed, in other words it's pointless taking his medication if it's not working, however this all seems to be too much trouble for him.
Marriage is never easy but that's what we think when we first get married, but our personality start to develop and problems begin, at first they can be sorted out, not so much later on, but it is difficult for a depressed person to hold out their hand and ask for help, rather they push it all aside.
What I have learnt over all these years is that if you don't get the help that is needed then you will get nowhere, except to only suffer, so he has to know that this has to be done, and if he doesn't go through and seek help then there isn't much you can do to help him, so as much as you are concerned about him, he lives in his own world which will do you damage as well as your children.
There is no doubt that we do want to help him get better but he has to accept that there is help out there and for him to feel better once again. Geoff. x
