Nannyballoon

[Nannyballoons]

My son has had a rough 10 months he has always had low self esteem , he was married young and had daughter, Xmas 2014 he and his wife seperate dandy she has taken his daughter who is 1 away and he hasn't seen her, we are currently going through court to get visitation rights, he went to the doctors when this happened and got medication and seeing a psychologist to help him from this he met a girl and has spent a couple of months with her she has ended the relationship becUse she can't handle his lows, she has been there for him as a friend since he has said he will take his life and he has been talking to telephone counsellors  until we can see the doctor Monday but when we talked to him he said I have become very good at saying what people want to hear I am so scared that he will take his life he has come to back to live with can anyone help 

[geoff]

dear Nannyballoon, I would like to thank you for posting your comment, in this rather difficult situation, actually it's a frightening position that you and of course your son are faced with.

Your son has been rejected twice, but more so that he has had to leave his daughter who is only very young, and then again by another girlfriend who can't cope with his low moods.

I am sure that his visitation rights would be very difficult, only because his wife would say that he is not capable mentally in visiting his daughter and would need to be done under supervision, which is only going to cause more heartache.

I know that it's Saturday and Monday would seem a long way away, and it is when you feel like he is feeling at the moment.

What does worry me is that 'he said I have become very good at saying what people want to hear', well that's a great attribute you have, and it means that you can talk to him and calm him down, and this is a very good way of being able to counsel him when he feels like taking his own life, but it is a dangerous territory because we don't know what happens behind closed doors.

Please as much as he respects you being his mum, and obviously takes your word as gospel, it is still a worry, and hell I wish I could tell you, but I really have to, it doesn't matter how happy he may seem to be, is no reason for you to take this as he will be safe, so you still have to be aware.

I really have to commend you for being such a lovely mother with all the care you portray for your son, you deserve all the compliments, and I wish there were more people like you. L Geoff. x

[Vegetarian Marshmallow]

It's great that he's going to the doctor, and he should hopefully be referred to a therapist.  Many people don't even get that far, so it's a good step.  I think that should be very helpful for him; a longer-term in-person counsellor who can build trust and get beneath that "I've learned to say what people want to hear" defense, not just a once-off telephone counsellor who won't have the chance to really get to know him.