A big HI to Purplezebra and all the other carers who have responded to this post. As a carer champion for Beyondblue, I love hearing and connecting with others who 'wear the same shoes'. You get it and can be compassionate to each other as the pain and frustration is raw, real and you all know it.
I love 'I'm mum' response- ' We must remember to keep ourselves together, take care of ourselves too. We must not give up on ourselves. Remember CARE FOR THE CARER. it starts with us caring for ourselves. Cause often nobody will'.
These words are so important and powerful, and l hope you all have read it carefully. We give so much of ourselves as carers and neglect our own needs and dreams.
We all have bad days, but there are good ones as well. I have found that living with gratitude has the power to lighten a dark day. Don't sweat the small stuff and be mindful of the wonderful things that do exist around and within you. I l know it's hard to do this when you are challenged by someone else's depression and/or anxiety - but you can control how you feel and act. When it gets too much, take time out and do something for you. It isn't selfish to do so (I once thought it was). I call it survival.
Hang in there you courageous souls. There is light at the end. A virtual hug to you all.
Carmela x
