Hi everyone,
I've recently started to notice signs of depression in my partner (withdrawal, uncertainty, not enjoying what he used to do, lacking interest in me- emotionally and physically, etc.) My full story is in the 'Depression' thread under 'My boyfriend is depressed' if you wish to have all the information.
Anyway, today I planned to catch up and just to talk. I admitted to him what he had shown signs and symptoms for the past month and a half. I explained to him that these feelings are completely normal and nothing to be ashamed about and that it was brave of him to realise there might be a problem. After telling him that it would be a good idea to see a GP to talk about what's going on so that he could get referred, he started denying that it was depression, stating that 'he's always been like this', that he 'doesn't need to see a GP' and that 'he has always felt empty'. After this, I explained to him that this isn't who he is. Before this, he was completely different. Although always being difficult to talk to about serious things (his emotions) and not always being a very affectionate person, he's always tried.
I don't know where to go from here. Obviously I should give it time and be patient, because he might come to the full realisation of what the problem is a week from now for example, but I'd just like any advice from anyone that has gone through this. What else can I say? What else can I do? How do I get him to stop denying it?
I can't help but feel neglected and feel as if everything I am doing is not worth it. I know that sounds selfish, but I just feel bery confused and overwhelmed at the moment. I really do love him and want what's best for him.
Any advice from anyone would be very helpful and please don't feel as if you'd offend me if you hold other views. I am open to anything at the moment.
carnevermind xo
