Hello
I am pretty new to all of this and it’s a pretty complex issue.
My husband has had bipolar long before he met me. We are both bisexual. We are in a polyamorous marriage as the openess suits us, particularly when he is having an episode and going to strippers, meeting men, seeing women, etc. He has just gotten a new high pressure job. And a couple of weeks ago his doctor suggested he may have some degree of Aspergers.
Since starting this new job he has had two nights heavy drinking and doing drugs. I was with him but it’s too much. He comes down very hard and is not good when tired, let alone hung over!! He is far more aggressive and snappy with my than usual. I can’t say anything right and he picks arguments over any little thing. I’m not from here (I’m from UK) so have no close friends or family to rely on. I did have a good relationship with his Mum but he has sabotaged that with some hurtful comments during an argument. I feel even more iscolated. And unwanted. We haven’t been intimate in a while but he is perusing other people. And that obviously upsets me but it gets turned back on me. Like everything else. I’m lying here now, feeling upset. And I really don’t know how to find the right support. I went to see a counseller on my own mental health plan to try and deal with this and feel supported myself but I really did not gel with her and found her quite irritating.
This is a long term thing I know. For my whole life. Has anyone got any advice for getting through these difficult periods?
