How to help my partner with anxiety????

[Kazza1985]

My partner suffers from anxiety, I'm struggling with doing anything right. I try research this stuff, it's so hard when I don't understand. We have had some big ups and downs in our relationship and he is living with his parents. He can't sleep at my house because he is so uncomfortable. It's going to destroy us due to the fact that I don't know how long I can keep going with it. I love him to bits but I'm at my whits end of what to do...any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

[BballJ]

Hi Kazza1985,

Firstly, welcome to the forums.

Living with someone with a mental illness is tough and being someone who suffers from anxiety I know the stress it puts on your partner (My wife sometimes doesn't know how to deal with my anxiety) - When you say you can't do anything right, what do you mean? How are you currently supporting him with his anxiety? Is he currently seeing a psychologist to help with it?

Also, there is a section on this page under "Supporting Someone" - helps people like yourself and gives you ideas on supporting someone with a mental illness.

My best for you and your partner,

Jay

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Kazza1985,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for your post.

I'd love to help if I can. Anxiety is a pretty common term thrown around but it can mean many different things for many different people. It can be anything from butterflies in the stomach when speaking to big crowds to feeling like you're having a heart attack not wanting to leave the house.

What is it that you know about anxiety? What is it that you feel you're struggling with most?

The last thing I want is to bombard you with stuff that's either too overwhelming or that you know already; so if we can start with what you know then we can go from there.