Help needed

[Unsure77]

Hi

i recently walked out on my bi polar fiancé as it got abusive and nasty. I wish I had read Tony's post about the cuppa before doing so, I'm not a confrontational person at all, the is sure I cheated on her which I didn't as she contacted the person and was told the same thing, but still didn't believe either us. She told me she loved me and things would change every time I went back but never did. The last time I went back she hit me again so I walked. It's been nearly three weeks now I haven't heard from her. Her family hate me as they all think I cheated on her, she has told them I am a compulsive liar. I love and miss her so much.

have I made the right decision by leaving, not that I think I will ever see or hear from her again. She is all I have thought about since I left.

[Guest9337]

Hi U77. Do you think Her reactions should affect your positions?

dng

[Unsure77]

Hi dng

she is saying the DV is because of my actions lying to her it drove her into the depression and she didn't know what she was doing.

i couldn't hide talking to parents and kids from her as she says I have two lives now, I had to choose her or them.

anyway this morning got too much for me mentally. And emotionally for me dng being acused of lying, cheating because I didn't answer the phone last night when my dad had a heart attack and being told I don't want her I don't love her because I wanted to see my family. I have blocked her number.

This has killed me emotionally to do this but I could feel myself going backwards into depression myself. I still love her so much it hurts and I feel sick but as much as I want things to change I realise and know they never will.

[Guest9337]

Evning Unsure77.

I hear you on all those points. Your emotions will likely settle over time we hope. Go back to your core values, give yourself peace and family time, pull that business back together. You got this.

Sound about right? what type of business is it?

dng.

[Unsure77]

It's a tree surgery business, I really don't want to let go of her dng but I have to

[Guest9337]

How do u envisage this all going forward now?

[Unsure77]

I guess I need to stop contact and one day at a time

[Guest9337]

U77. Well that's midnight-ish. What's happening on the Thursday the 29th?

[Unsure77]

I have my first 2 jobs booked in for the first time in a month

[Unsure77]

I will never stop thinking about her dng, all I wanted was a two way streetand I was told I don't have that right. I wouldn't be able to call anybody as she wanted to do 24/7 with me until she was comfortable if she ever became comfortable. My phone would be taken and checked continueslly.

if was to give into her demands I would lose 2 very close friends I know that for sure they have told me this.

[Guest9337]

Fair enough mate you are allowed to think about it all as much as you want. You are right to want a fair two way street and safety and friends. That's all reasonable stuff.

Try to build a picture in your head of the future that looks good for you.

What is the single best goal you can make about your business?
What is the best goal you can make about friends/family?

Post em up U77, im at the pc for a while.