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[Unsure77]

Hi

i recently walked out on my bi polar fiancé as it got abusive and nasty. I wish I had read Tony's post about the cuppa before doing so, I'm not a confrontational person at all, the is sure I cheated on her which I didn't as she contacted the person and was told the same thing, but still didn't believe either us. She told me she loved me and things would change every time I went back but never did. The last time I went back she hit me again so I walked. It's been nearly three weeks now I haven't heard from her. Her family hate me as they all think I cheated on her, she has told them I am a compulsive liar. I love and miss her so much.

have I made the right decision by leaving, not that I think I will ever see or hear from her again. She is all I have thought about since I left.

[Guest9337]

Yo U77.

It's good to honestly guess about coming towards realisations.

What do ya think about my new profile pic, the rainbow cyclist?

[Unsure77]

Hi dng

I like it.

the problem with the realisation is that I don't want it to be true

[Guest9337]

Yeh I like the rainbow cyclist too, it's growing on me.

truth state is not wanted. realisation is a problem?

idk mate, i'm a bit trippy this morning. Am i on the right track?

I've never met nor heard of a break up that was really nice and mutually agreeable and beneficial. Mostly from what i've seen it's all rather messy.

I have a friend who is the principle manager of a factory, like the top bloke just below the actual owners of the factory. Lets call that friend P.

P said "Sometimes the only outcome is that both parties are not happy with the solution."

Like everyone is just thankful it's all bloody over with.

I paid too much for xyz. They didn't sell xyz for a profit but it was just taking up space and had to go.

The classic, lose lose in gaming theory.

[Unsure77]

I hope the realisation won't be too much of a problem, but I'm sure I will struggle with it

[Unsure77]

I think she may have tried to call today on a private number but after I answered they hung up.

[Guest9337]

Hi U77. see if any of my following helps you...

In military strategy it is useful to spoof communication by initiating contact but giving away no information. It's a sensor technique to seek out information as a response.

Yes, U77 is answering the phone, I recognise U77's voice. Yes U77 is still on a hair trigger, lets keep them that way.

Also known as a technique for harassing another person, because of how people respond to unsolicited phone calls that are from private numbers. Most people respond with some kind of feeling of being threatened by a call that hangs up.

One extreme example is when one starts receiving multiple hang up calls, at random times of the day and during normal sleeping hours. IF that happens it is illegal harassment.

[Unsure77]

Afternoon dng

i didn't say anything when I answered , I wanted to see if anything was said from the caller. It happened a few days ago aswell. I wonder if she does want to say something but not sure what to say or just wants to hear my voice. We'll she should get the letter in a few days see what happens then.

[Guest9337]

U77.

Risk assessment.

SHE might be looking for a way to record your voice.

SHE might be hoping you'll speak first.

Might not be her! Plenty of marketers use similar dodgy tactics.

Do you have any risks associated with your voice being recorded?

Are you willing to speak first, hoping it's HER? What would be your opening sentence?

1...

2...

etc

[Unsure77]

She has my voice recorded, I will start by saying hello.

next I really don't know depends on what's said or if answered.

definatley could be a scam caller.

[Guest9337]

Ah, just "Hello".

Some consider that one of the ultimate first olive branches! It's a solid opening statement.

I'm here, I greet you, I'm listening.

Some conflicts get so heightened that even who should speak first is a bone of contention, because of perceptions about first and second.

I might say : Hello, I'm listening and would love to hear your voice.

I might say : Hello, I wish you would speak.

I might say : Hello, I'm waiting.

I might say : Hello. ...

If you said Hello, what used to be the response SHE made?