Confused an hurt

[Confusedpartner]

My partner walked out on myself an toddler six months ago after treatment an him out of control an tryin to commit suicide he finally got help an we started to build our life aagain

two weeks ago he left saying he didn't love me but was fine loving and aring right up until the day before he left constantly telling me he loved me 

 Now he's left he won't talk to me he's totally wiped me he won't see our daughter hasn't asked about her 

I told him I want to sell the house but we won't talk to me 

He has two kids from a relationship before an he spent all weekend with them 

hes constantly sleeping an moody an snappy his family is telling me 

 How do I no if he has fallen out of love or if its depression he had been good before he went down 

[CrashCoyote]

Hi Confusedpartner,

Thank you for posting.

The sort answer to your question is that you don't know. He probably doesn't know. Either way, the answer may be a long time coming, if ever.

Are you able to manage your life and care for your daughter alone? If not, what reliable support do you have? No matter how it goes, her day to day needs must be met until your life starts to take some direction.

Much as I understand your concern for your partner, your daughter actually needs you and that (in my humble opinion) must be your focus.

Kind regards, John.

[Confusedpartner]

Hi thank you for your post

i no I can do it alone an over time I will heal I just wonder an hope he will get help he ignores me an our daughter an she doesn't understand 

I wish he would get help

[geoff]

dear Confusedpartner, unfortunately this is what can happen when you have someone, like a partner and/or spouse suffering from depression.

John's right neither of you know the answer to this either now or perhaps on his recovery, but this seems to be a long way away.

He desperately needs to continue with some professional help, and I'm not sure whether he is getting this or not.

He is behaving no differently to his previous marriage/relationship and only staying there because it's a roof over his head, but there is a chance that he will also leave this situation and go some where else.

At the moment he is incapable of making a decision in regards to the house, so is the ownership 50/50 or joint, but you have to make the decision that suits you and your baby, but from what you have said it would appear that you probably need to sell and find a place to rent.

Do you have someone else who can help you with the real estate agents, because these people love to dictate what is best for them or how they can make the most money, and by being a single mum they would ask you to come to their terms.

Please let us know. L Geoff. x