BPD girlfriend

[Slightly_insane]

Hi everyone. Have only just registered and must rush off to work. I intend to post my story. Been with a partner with BPD for nearly one year. She currently arrested for 3rd time. At home alone. House is trashed. Holes in wall. My dry blood is everywhere. And still I would take her back when she released. Despite a intervention order being in place. Didn't stop us for last few weeks. I'm confused. Mind warped. Hurt etc. She has a long history of these experiences in past relationships. Leaving a trail of destruction and broken men. Yet I believe I'm the first to have the answer. BPD. Given to me by a mental health worker when my partner allowed herself to be seen by one a few times after our first blowup. And as soon as a diagnosis came up partner flipped. Stopped seeing them. Even rang management to have the worker sacked. Will post again soon

[Gruffudd]

Hi there, Welcome aboard.

Sounds rather full on some days in your house. You show some commitment to your relationship to stick around. I hope here on the forums we can listen and perhaps share something that can help too. When I have been stressed I have needed to spend a lot more time renewing myself to face it all again. Do you have that at the moment? What do you do to relax? What are the good things?

Hope to see you around the Forums.

Rob.

[Doolhof]

Hi Slightly Insane

Sounds like you care for your girlfriend and that she does need some help.

I have been diagnosed with BPD as has a niece. I am sure my Mum suffers from it as well but would never accept he diagnosis if it was made.

I'm thankful I was diagnosed and have received treatment, medication and advice on how to deal with this health issue. My niece can be very turbulent and abusive and has many problems relating to people, reacting like a destructive tornado or erupts with volatile emotions like a volcano.

Am I right in reading your girlfriend has been arrested? If so, can you approach the authorities holding her and ask if she can have her mental health evaluated and request assistance for her.

Hope you get back to us so we may be able to suggest more options.

Like Rob mentioned, you need to look after yourself in all of this as well.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

[Doolhof]

Hi, just had another thought,

Google BPD or borrow a book from a library and discover more about this condition so you can better understand your girlfriend and maybe find a way to explain it to her as well.

Cheers

[WorriedDad]

Hi guys

Just read this post and wanted to ask a question of those that suffer from BPD (assuming that's Borderline and not Bipolar). My daughter is now 16, see "Need help with my daughter 15" thread for more info, and displays many of the syptoms of this diagnosis. Her Psychiatrist has also expressed that, although diagnosis isn't typically until 18, she has observed pointers that suggest to such a diagnosis as well. My question is that if you are a sufferer are you actually relieved in a way if someone gives you a diagnosis that makes sense after obviously not 'fitting' the previous ones people have been looking at when you've had anxiety, depression etc or do many not accept it as true....or is it really up to the individual. My daughter has taken herself off her anti depressant medication herself a month to 6 weeks ago because she said she didn't need it and is very up and down with mood. If challenged she'll get very angry very quick, is dishonest about many things, has dropped out of school as well as drinking and practising unsafe sex with multiple partners and we think she is now pregnant, a nightmare as a father I must admit to watch your little girl almost self destruct. At other times she'll organise her own appointments for job and be pleasant and helpful but it doesn't last very long.

As I said, did it help to actually have someone give you an explanation for your own actions or are people with BPD reluctant to accept the diagnosis anyway? Just trying to decide whether I bring it up with my daughter to try and get her back into treatment or if it will just make her even angrier towards me and her mother?

Any advice is very much appreciated as I try to understand the workings of this condition.

Thanks