Hello Kentish man, I don't want to upset those who believe in a religion, but I'm not one who believes there is a greater god that I could possibly fall back on for any support, however people are entitled to have this feeling and support a belief they have either learnt or have been raised that way, that's their choice, but to me our life is destined by ourselves.
A higher authority only wins if the person believes it will and can only justify a reason when it doesn't, but when someone struggles with a MI there is no justification and initially there may not be any help until you seek help from a professional and this may take you a few times to find the person that can understand what're trying to say.
For someone like yourself and with your wife having this belief, reminds me of an aunt who stayed with us for a short time, she was religious and kept on telling us that 'some higher being' would only be able to help us, and we were delighted when she finally moved out, because it was simply just too heavy and didn't allow us to think clearly.
If people want to believe in a religion, that's their choice, but they shouldn't try and control our own thoughts, so if you want some freedom then perhaps begin by separating, and there's more to discuss if you want to.
Geoff.
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