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Worry and anxious

Guest_22043504
Community Member

Love to know others tips on this. Most times before one of our adult children..still at home will have an important event or go away on a holiday, I stress that there general health will be well eg: no cold/flu etc...so they can enjoy their trip or special event. I know my mum always said to me 'stay well...if you are not well you won't be able to enjoy yourself as much'. Any help would be great for this mum to break this awful cycle. x

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Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Dear Guest,

A very warm welcome to the forums…

 

Oh the joys of motherhood…my children are all grown up with families of their own, even grandchildren of their own…makes me feel old🙂..and I still constantly worry about them all…they live 7 hours drive away which means I don’t see them much at all…I have to take their word that they are all okay..it really is an awful cycle of motherly love, care and concern…one I don’t think will ever leave us mums…

 

We have to put our trust in our adult children, that we taught them well enough that if they are unwell, they know when to reach out to a Dr…regardless of where they are…

 

Maybe talk to them about your concerns before they go where they going, if on holidays or an event and ask them to ring you nightly to let you know they are okay, healthy and enjoying themselves…

 

My kindest thoughts,

Grandy..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don’t think a mother ever 

TrueSeeker
Community Member

Hello

 

I can see that you're a great mum and want all the best for your children. It is a big change when children grow up and the relationship changes from teaching and caring about their needs to becoming a friend. It can take  some time to change our thinking and adjust to changes.

 

Your children now know what to do and how to take care of their health. Things can still happen as it's part of life but our worrying can't change that, it can only make us feel bad about things that we can't do anything about. All we can do is to be there for them when there is a need.

 

I think that it might be time to focus on your happiness as well and use your time for hobbies or other things that you've always wanted to do but couldn't and deserve.

 

Please take good care of yourself and let us know how you're going