What helps to keep well?

[PamelaR]

Hello everyone

Have been around the forums now for a couple of months. Posted a couple of threads under PTSD, but think it's time I move on to 'Staying Well'. In reality that is the reason I came to Beyond Blue Forums in the first place - to stay well. Not to dwell or mooch in the past.

Many of you will have read the factual information about my past. Something that is missing from my posts though is - how I really am. That's what I want this post to be. It has to be about things I'm finding out about 'who I am and how I keep well'.

I was so down, having retired last year, losing all sight of what I wanted to do, being physically incapacitated, thyroid medication not right and screaming inside. The psych who I'd just started seeing wanted me to look a my personality..... No you don't. That's not what I wanted. So I moved on to a new psychologist.

The new psychologist is drilling down. I have to take stock of myself, my feelings, my emotions and ultimately - who I am (so I need to look at what has formed by beliefs, behaviours and values).

Interestingly I'm still apprehensive about divulging me. You know why - because I was brought up to show no emotion, to not feel good about myself. And especially NEVER talk to others about yourself. That would be bragging or worse, getting too big for my boots.

ATM feeling very emotive. I want to scream, I want to reach out to you all out there and to hug you all.

Hugs were never something that happened in our household. I only learnt how to hug women in the 1990s when I worked with some wonderful group of women in the disability field. How good was that!! What had I'd been missing all those years - hugs from women. It learnt it was okay. Hugging men - of course that was always okay cos it's normal.

Me - my heart pounds at least an hour or two every day. I spend and hour or two settling those pounds. Why does it happen - every look, every word, every sound and every thought make me feel worthless.

I asked hubby today if he loved himself. He said well, yes a lot more that I did before. You know I did that. I thought him to love himself. But can I do that for me. I'm really trying.

Loving oneself - keeps you well. I'll get there. BB forums is helping me like you'd never believe.

Sending everyone who reads this all the hugs I can.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[PamelaR]

OMG you awesome guys!! (Pepper, Amy, Deebi, CMF, Chloe, and anyone else who takes a peek.) Thank you!!

These posts keeps me well!! Knowing people think about me and just pop in. You gorgeous bunch of lovelies.

Yes, I am busy, run off my feet. Went to my leadlighting class yesterday, out photographing the recent immigrant birds at the local wetlands, digging the garden. Plus answer newbies in BB forums.

All of this makes me feel good.

There is just one downer - I haven't posted on your threads. Sorry guys. Doesn't mean I don't care for you anymore. Just means there are so many others out there who need welcoming.

Deebi, loved your hugs and loves!!! You special woman.

You're all special women (and men who are out there reading!! E.g. Smallwolf, Blondeguy, WhiteKnight, Geoff, James). This helps me so much. You really have no idea. I've got to log out for a few hours. Will try to catch up again before going to bed.

Love to you all!!

PamelaR

[blondguy]

Hey Pamela

Just going back to your thread topic (and thankyou for the super kind post too)

• My monthly 'fine tune' with my GP
• My low dose meds (even though I refused them for 13 years lol)
• The Simpsons....and yes I am serious 🙂

Great post Pamela and thankyou x

My kind thoughts

Paul

[Tams20]

Hi PamelaR,

Whilst I’m feeling far from well at the moment, the things that I am doing to try to get well is:

• Listening to music - as often as possible and as loud as possible.
• Playing soccer with a bunch of like-minded ladies who are also my mates 😊
• Working. Because it distracts me away from my own thoughts and forces me to be social.
• Spending time with my kids

Tams

[Chloe_M]

CMF having your new job sounds great! Hope it all works out for you xx

Pammy thank you for that beautiful post you wrote. I agree, everyone here is lovely 😘

To everyone else keep up the good work.

And what keeps me well? Seeing my friends. I saw them yesterday and was greeted by hugs and kind words. They are here for me 😊

Chloe 💛

[Ggrand]

Hello Pamela and everyone,

I hope everyone is doing well.

What keeps me well..At the moment I'm struggling with a heavy cold, sneezing, coughing, headachy etc.....So .I think for the next few days, my big pot of chicken and vegetable soup I'm making.....I accidentally spilled so many black peppercorns into it though,...lol the lid came off while I was bringing some Pepper into it... Maybe I will heal quickly and the heat of the peppercorns might burn my cold away...wishful thinking?

I hope you all have good day

Grandy

[Chloe_M]

Grandy hope you feel better soon xx chicken soup is really good for colds... Make sure you get some rest... Have a nice hot shower and a lie down... Sending you hugs

xx Chloe

[startingnew]

HI Pammy and Everyone

Pammy- i love how successsfull this threads becoming with everyone contributing. thank you for starting this thread

Grand- i really hope you feel better soon. soups i find helpful too.

CMF- im glad you like your new job and its helping you to keep well.

today for me what helped me keep well was to just take an easy going day. watched a few movies, stayed in bed, had a bath and just avoided some stressors so i was able to breathe without being so overwhelemed.

[Chloe_M]

Haha starts very similar day to mine 🙂

also, HUGS keep me well.

Sending you all hugs xx

chloe

[Ggrand]

Hello Everyone,

Thank you Startingnew, Chloe, for hoping I get well soon. I was going to get my flue shot next week..lol it will have to wait now until this cold is over with..

sending everyone hugs as well...🤗

Grandy..

[Chloe_M]

*shudders* one thing I can't stand is needles. But I still have to get my flu shot and had to get my 3 HPV shots in yr7 as well as chicken pocks whooping cough and a bunch of other ones.

Thinking about needles does not keep me well. So I should quit thinking about them lol.

cheers,

chloe 😎