Vent and then let it go...

[Guest_1055]

Not sure about anyone else but sometimes I just need to vent, including venting any frustrations, fears, hopes, worries, longings and anything else. Most of the time I don't want any advice or any responses. Just need a way to get it all out from within me.

So thought this thread could be for those sort of things. No one replys to you with words or anything. It's a place to let it all go. Just dump whatever it is you want to say and leave it here.

So yeah no replys please.

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Shelly...and everyone...

Shelly...you sound so sad, defeated and alone...You have all of us that live and care for you so much....

Just wanted to share a little something with you dear sweet Shelly....and anyone else struggling...

The constant struggles and demands on us, feel intense some days.... We’re weary and worn out...We feel exhausted and discouraged.... There never seem to be enough hours in the day to get everything done that we need to get completed...And it’s just hard to keep going in the face of defeat and discouragement...Please Jesus help us to remember that you are there, close, and you promise never to leave us.

One night I dreamed a dream.
As I was walking along the beach with my Lord.
Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
One belonging to me and one to my Lord.

After the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at many times along the path of my life,
especially at the very lowest and saddest times,
there was only one set of footprints.

This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
"Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You'd walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."

He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."

Please never give up on your hope...faith....belief..

Grandy..

[est72]

I grew up reading Wattpad stories about abusive households and situations where the main character self harms and goes through traumatic situations, and I feel as if it has desensitized me in a way, and although I frequently find myself opening the app every night looking for a sense of comfort, it greatly affects my life in ways I wish it wouldn't. I stopped reading those types of stories a while ago, nowadays I read mostly fanfiction, but I feel as though it has led to me sub-consciously make up false realities in my head without me realising, like pretending a comfort character is in the room with me having a conversation or pretending I'm way cooler than I actually am in my head, and it's taken me too long to come to the realization that I simply just can't accept the fact that my life isn't some fanfiction. I am aware that it is a coping habit, one to get away from genuine reality, but I've been struggling to find a healthier one that involves me coming to terms with my actual life. I've recently noticed that I'm so ignorant when it comes to reality that I set higher standards for myself, trying to be like the person in my head, only to be disappointed when I realize I'm not as talented as I thought I was.

While I'm grateful that the stories on Wattpad have allowed me to mature and grow up, there have been situations where it's become a borderline addiction, like in 2020 lockdown for example. Every night I would read fanfictions and stories on it until ungodly hours, often pulling all-nighters, only to break down and cry when I see the sun coming up because all I want to do is sleep at a normal time and not be depressed. I would then uninstall the app and tell myself to never stay up reading on it again, and then proceed to install it and log back in the next night and do the exact same thing, like a vicious cycle. It led me to skip out on a lot of education, and now I find myself struggling a little when it comes to things I should've learned last year.

Despite all of that I can't see myself stopping reading fanfictions in the future, because as I mentioned before it brings me comfort late at night and it's always been something I can rely on, plus I've invested so much time into it and into a certain fandom, and I can't imagine myself throwing that all away.

There is no need to reply to this rant suggesting help, I am okay, but I'm desperate to find someone that can relate, as it has been such a big part of my life for so long.

[Doolhof]

Dear Shelley,

I have only just seen your post here. My heart goes out to you. It is so hard when you love and desire to be loved but don't feel it in return.

Dear precious lady, do you feel comfortable calling the support lines like Beyond Blue and Life Line? People have helped me in the past when my mind has been so sad and confused I no longer know how to help myself.

Are you able to go out walking? Does reading help you? It sounds like music and songs are calming and restorative for you. Hold on to those words of comfort.

Hold on to God. Also please know you are a valued and much liked and appreciated person here in this community.

Sending you virtual hugs and praying for peace, kindest regards from Dools

[Guest_1643]

hope ur okay Shelll.

feeling annoyed by Zoom meetings, which I am not good at and reminds me of really awful reality for me, and that makes me feel worse about life. I would prefer phone appointments than Zoom, and am over being told how lovely Zoom is (just like real life!!)

It's so not. I can't get a read of people over Zoom, see their body language, their smile, and also just feel calm and safe with a human. It is hard for me and keeps being pushed on me evn though I prefer phone calls. I am annoyed at the pressure it puts on me.

[Guest_1584]

Hmm , wonder what zoom is then if you still don't see ea other.

Anyway , try to take the good with the bad of it and really you don't need to see someone to tell. In my business you'd be amazed at some of the convos and clicks l've had with customer ph calls. lt's very obvious when your getting or into ea other. Do you feel they're getting you , they're genuine , care ? At anyrate l'm sorry it's not what you prefer , l know we have needs during times like your appointments . Sadly it's all a big part of this new damn covid world isn't it.

Good luck anyway , l hope it's at least helping a bit.

rx

[Guest_1643]

still zoom, just can't see the smile the same as it is in person, where u can feel it

[Guest9337]

I have come to a consideration that I will now share.

Venting and letting go of somethings can be the absolute worst thing to do! Like truly negative.

Do you ever vent about person A's action to say person B? Why does person B have to listen to your venting, when it is person A who is the cause of ones frustration? In that instance all 'you' have done is pass on your frustrations to someone else and not even addressed the frustrating issue with Person A.

Sure it's not always like that, but hey, it is like that very very often.

Do people feel so timid and powerless that they cannot even speak up about person A and their behaviour that causes a person to feel like venting? pfft, aim your frustrations away from your friends and families and send them back the exact source of person A, for they deserve to hear your frustrations they are contributing to, and venting to person B is disrespectful to all concerned, yourself, person A and person B!

Can person B actually address your issue? For if all they can do is listen and take no action, then well, great job, all you have done is distract yourself from actually fixing and addressing your own frustration and passed that frustrating situation onto someone else.

If you need a person C to address your issue as they are the appropriate person/authority, then do that!

Fear not, complaints and feedback process take a lot of time but they do indeed work far more effectively than just venting to person B.

When we let go of somethings, those same things grow and end up hurting and frustrating other people, are you so selfish/time poor/whatever that you don't want to stop that happening?

[Guest_1643]

hi dng - this thread is useful to those who use it, so i find those comments a little bit upsetting.

If you would prefer not to use this thread as you don't find it helpful i totally support your choice.

We use this thread to vent because we find it helpful, and that it isn't as you say, the worst thing ever.

[Ggrand]

Hello dng....

I am the sort of person who cannot vent to anyone face to face...I know I’m timid and powerless...but really don’t like to be reminded of it...have been all my life due being a doormat and being abused by everyone in my life that should have cared and loved me..I cannot change the way I’ve been made by others...

If that means I’m to timid and powerless to speak up face to face...so be it..that’s who I am...and I honestly cannot help it..

At least here...on this thread people can vent out their thoughts and feeling and feel safe doing so...I have vented here a few times and it does help...better out..then it being kept inside festering....

Sorry if I’ve upset you dng....that’s not my intention at all..just trying to explain that many people with mental health issues and/or PTSD has been to damaged to be able to speak their mind face to face..

My kindest thoughts everyone..

Grandy..

[Guest_1584]

Very true.

Not everything or every time is about confronting someone or doing something , sometimes we just like to get it of our chests.

rx