Hi all,
Today's self care was to let several things slide, and just focus on checking my d's long thick hair for nits, whilst watching a movie- yep, not my fave way to spend a morning, but may as well enjoy as best we can!
Consequently kept her home from school, skipped the pool visit in the arvo (prepping for swim carnival, trying to make up for lost time lol) and did the shopping! Thats about it!
Let H cook dinner whilst I went to a meeting- gee that felt nice.
I agree Em, self care, or doing what's the GOOD thing for us, depends entirely upon the perspective. I read something like that recently. Brene Brown I think....Yep, just found it. She talks about shadow comforts, and numbing.
Figure out what brings us real comfort and renewal, not just numbing. It's not what we do, but why we do it. You can eat a piece of chocolate as a holy wafer, or you can cram an entire chocolate bar in your mouth without even tasting it in a frantic attempt to soothe yourself- a shadow comfort. You can chat on message boards for half an hour and be energised by community and ready to return to work, or you can chat on msg boards becos you're avoiding talking to your partner about how angry he or she made you last nite." The quotes are in Dare to Lead but from Jennifer Louden.
The way I understand it is if we're feeling vulnerable, we mite try and protect or comfort ourselves in some way. I like her concept of 'rumbling with vulnerability' instead- honest discussions, appropriate to the environment, which acknowledge difficult feelings and name them, instead of avoiding it. NOT oversharing, or disclosing innappropriately.
Apologies everyone- I'm sharing what I'm learning to learn it better, if that makes sense!
Cheers,
J*
