Three self-care things you did today!

[ecomama]

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

[PinkFeather]

I love this thread, thanks for starting it, it keeps me on track.

Today was a very bad day, I felt myself disassociating soooooooooooo....
1. Had a dreadful experience at the dr's so sat under a big Morton Bay Fig afterwards. While I cried I felt the big mossy roots support me.
2. Set my alarm early and still got up, despite no sleep, and attended to basic chores.
3. Sitting down after a big emotional day and feeling like I have a place to comfortably share....you guys! Thanks xo

[Guest_1643]

- Came early to an appointment which gave me more time.

- a warm drink in the car for a long drive

- put in some hair lotion to calm my tresses down from the heat

[Not_Batman]

Hi all.

pinkfeather, when the roots are deep there is no need to fear the wind. Be kind to yourself.

all sanding and no play makes Not_Batman a dull boy....but it will be worth it. Wet sanding is a meeeeeeessy job.

made a delicious creamy mustard pasta.

ate a golden gaytime. Aww yeah.

watching cartoons with the kids.

Not_Batman

[Guest_1643]

hi Not_Batman - i was checking out a Golden Gaytime the other day in the servo but went for a maxibon instead 🙂
Great little treat 🙂

Hope ur well, Not_batman, keep being amazing

[Jstar49]

Hi all,

Hey pink feather! I'm feelin ya today-about having a safe space to share, this space right here on these pages. Rough day. Rough and brilliant and heart breaking. So I guess to self care I took the day to be with my man, and we shared a lovely plant shop visit, and ate food by the riverside. It's funny becos until writing it here I hadn't realised that it was self care!

And I took the time to put my hair up and even some makeup before dinner with the folks et al ( we never know what that will be like but it's best to have the armour on).

And now I'm coming onto the forums, becos I feel like i can have a shit day and it's ok here.

Thanks for sharing your tears with us pink feather. I feel like we can hug it out thru the snot and the heartache.

Life just sux sometimes!!!

J*

[missep123]

My self care today was painting my nails and watching a new Netflix show! I feel very relaxed now

[Jstar49]

Hiya,

Boundaries- wow yes, flexing the muscles, getting stronger, growing in confidence and self assurance that Yes, I deserve to be able to say "this is not ok for me!

My friend who had difficulty hearing my "NO" is very forceful, and was probably agitated more by the environment- indoors on a rainy day in a small, noisy shopping mall.

Thanks Sleepy! It did feel really good to:

a) KNOW that I couldn't discuss the issue

b) Realise that I could control the situation, change the scene, and end up having a good day.

I often feel like no means I'm being mean, or not giving someone what they want. But actually I think she wanted connection, which is why she probably wanted to talk to me about something very close to the bone. I didn't identify it at the time of course. Only now while I'm writing it.

Note to self- continue to trust my instincts!

Em I feel really sad that someone would take advantage of your friendship and openness like that. And it's sad that she has not been able to be mature enough to continue the conversation. I hope that you are able to 'shake it off' (little lol 😂) and not let it rock your boat. You know it's about her, ultimately, and not you or your d.

💙

[Guest_1643]

i'm with u there jstar - you sound like u know really well how to follow ur instincts and be assertive. love that for self-care

-braved a face-to-face meeting instead of zoom which i've been avoiding

- kept my cleaning small and managable rather than overwhelm

- put on colourful pink link balm

[Jstar49]

Hi Sleepy,

I think I've spent too much of my life being indecisive and simply angry, rather than assertive. I still tend to seek validation rather than trusting my gut, so it's def a WIP! It's nice that I sound like I'm comfortable with it tho!

On the weekend at the markets I bought myself a necklace/pendant. The carving, in bone (Maori) is of a fern leaf unfurling. It symbolises new growth, new beginnings. The moment the lady told me what it meant I started to cry, it touched me so quickly and deeply. so I bought it. I almost don't dare to hope, but at the same time, what else is there?

J*

[ecomama]

Awww PinkFeather!

HUGE GROUP HUGS!! You sweet sweet thing!

I'm so sorry you were upset by the Dr. Seriously sometimes I think we need a Counselling room right NEXT to some professional's offices to "debrief, diffuse and debunk" LOL!!! The three Ds!
I just made that up but it was certainly in reaction to how you felt.

Grandmother Fig Tree was there to hold you.

We are ALWAYS here to hold you and understand too!!

I KNOW for sure that our foremothers would have sat under a tree and cried and cried.
I try to invoke their wisdom surviving what they did and never feel alone.

I'm also glad you could feel yourself dissociating!
It's when we DON'T know its happening, there's a problem.

This can be healed! I've spoken about my journey through this on my thread.
Thank God psych friends were with me, saw it and had the courage to TELL me.

Thankyou for coming on to share!
Love EM