Three self-care things you did today!

[ecomama]

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

[Guest_1643]

Hi EM

I like how you will use specific, expansive words to thank ur co-workers

u never know the uplifting effect this could have on them -

Often a smile can change someone's whole day. So can personalised compliments.

- Took myself out to lunch

- Wrote in my journal

- Texted my friend an update on something we discussed - took self-worth to assume she would care

[Not_Batman]

Hi all.

happy Thursday! I hope everyone has a wonderful day.

Pl515p1...nice. Just like sleepy said it may only take a smile to brighten a day. Even the smallest gesture helps.

yesterday i played an instrument for a solid hour, i havent done that in years. (Started just playing and singing, and then the kids came in and listened)

helped someone out at work that was having a hard time, and was greatly appreciated for the help.

Got some really good advice from BB about childhood bullies.

Not_Batman

[ecomama]

Hey BB self-carers lol... maybe the BBSCs? Nah too much lol.

Hey pl515p1, those are lovely things you said and did. I truly hope you cultivate some trustworthy and long lasting friendships. NICE ONES!

Hey Sleepy bbg lol... it's important to tell people "words of affirmation" isn't it?
I only say authentic things, this is a value of mine I hold dear.
But if I remember (lol) I also try to use tact... so if someone says "Do you like this dress on me?" and if I don't really, I might say "I like the colour or cut or ..." and if they say "It doesn't suit me does it?" lol then I might say "Maybe that in blue would bring out your eye colour more" lol.

But I won't give false compliments, like EVER. So people know that when I do, I mean it.

You are SO WORTHY and rightly so bringing up whatever it was with your friend.

LOVE your self-care points!

Hey Not_Batman, I bet the kids LOVED hearing you sing and play. How precious is that for all of you!

Now that so many of my children have left home, I'm glad I took the time when I did to create beautiful memories for us all. Tbh I wish I did it MORE!!!

There's never enough time. It goes in a blink. I actually said that to my first baby in her crib in the hospital. "You'll be gone in a blink" and she was. I'm gonna make myself cry! Oh dear lol.

On the bullying topic. Phone the school asap. Tell them exactly what's going on. Ask for them to email you their "Anti-Bullying Policy". It's NEVER okay. Never. The things I've had to do Not_Batman, they'd make your hair curl lol.

Also thankyou for complimenting other's points all the time. It really means alot.
Sleepy does it ALL the time too all over the forums, she's too precious for words lol.

Love youse all!
EM

[ecomama]

Sleepy21 said:

- Basically told someone they were triggering me - I have never said that before. They didn't get it and thought I was crazy. Oh well! Practise for me in setting boundaries

- had a chai latte

- bought some snacks for the week

WOW!
I totally missed this post of yours Sleepy, sorry!

You must have been posting at the same time as me lol.

WELL DONE YOU for speaking UP!!! Wow that's HUGE!

Aha boundaries are a "fun" thing lol... lots to work on for me there but I'm so happy to see you leading the way lol!!!

Great work!
Love EM

[ecomama]

Hey SCers lol... trying out a few names here but they're not quite POPPING out for me.
Any help is greatly appreciated!

Well I'm pretty amazed at my self-care, it's been especially "radical" so hopefully my Counsellor will think so too!! lol. She's so funny when she gives me feedback.
She's so aware of the past me (triggering at the air even), and she's SO polite and respectful omg that she ASKS me if she can give me feedback.

I used to say "go on shoot" but she's American so it's not quite a good phrase to use ugh!

Now I say "Oh YES PLEASE!" She is such a goldmine of help, I love her to bits and tell her so lol.

SO amazing healing after I got recommended supplements, a mouth spray and oils from the Health Food Store... 90% reduction in the swelling in my face.
I could say I was gobsmacked but lol...
Even the pain has diminished to not need pain relief, so I'M HAPPY!
All in time for my next appt on Monday - yep I'm a get it over with type of person, I'm BUSY! lol.

Bought more Vietnamese food for dinner. It's always healthy and JUST what I love.

Visited my Chiro today and he was awesome as per usual!
He's happy that I didn't need as many adjustments today. Me too lol.

I surprised my youngest daughter I call Yvette, NOT anywhere near her real name.
I picked up her new phone and took it to her work.
I said "How much do you love me?" lol...she said "What? Did you want something to eat?" and I said "Answer me"... then I smiled and she knew STRAIGHT AWAY that I had her phone.
She rushed around the counter and hugged me then I could hear her screaming while she opened it with her work friends.

She has another surprise tomorrow that the WHOLE family know about except for her. Yay.

Happy baby girl makes a happy mama lol.

I said YES to going swimming at the indoor pools with another daughter Alexa (also nowhere near her real name) and the grandkiddies tomorrow. I normally wouldn't say yes but I'm "changing things up" as Sleepy puts it.

You're right Sleepy.
And it's making me feel more alive!

Ewww just when things were calm... I think my cat's got something of the Christmas spirit and brought in a mouse as a pressie for mama. Yuck.

DO SOMETHING WONDERFUL for yourself!

It's pretty magical.

Love EM

[Guest_1643]

hi Em the look on the woman's face was priceless. I told her I was being triggered and she looked at me like I was an alien from out of space. Took me a few hours on the drive back home to realise I did nothing wrong and stuff her.
I just said my needs etc and asked for some space because I was suffering through what she was exposing me to. She was being mean because she didn't like what i was saying and didn't like the boundaries I was setting. And also needed her own "supply" of attention ect which was being taken away from her.
Deal with it lol. I can easily imagine another scenario of someone being supportive and fine with asking for a boundary, and when taht doesn't happen I know it's okay and not my fault. Thanks EM

[ecomama]

OH WELL DONE YOU Sleepy!

I have a special finger that I think of when things like that happen lol...

Yeah deal.

Boundaries SHOULD be respected. Really no matter WHAT they are. If that's what a person is requesting then that's what they should GET.

Seriously what's wrong with some people?
That's a rhetorical question btw lol.

I've learnt that setting boundaries is like working a specific set of muscles in the gym lol... it's hard!

You finally get the courage to SET boundaries and ppl want to trample all over them.

So it's MAINTAINING boundaries which I get fed up with.

Practice those boundary muscles Sleeps my girl!!

You're smashing this!!!

Love EM

[ecomama]

Hey BB self-carers!

HAPPY FRIDAY everyone!

Well I had an INTERESTING mix of self-care today... some I didn't even realise WERE self-care, you gave me the hint that boundaries ARE self-care and really important Sleepy!

Mine for today:
* sent a text to fiancee saying we couldn't talk today and what I had on... being apart at Christmas is an esp hard time for us as it's the beautiful time we met, SNOW sighhhh.
We've had 3 out of 5 Christmases together so far... about to miss another one 😞
STILL setting this boundary at times will help me enjoy my kid's Summer holidays more.
But I miss my fiancee very much.

* went swimming with my daughters and grandchildren in the indoor pools.

* had a relaxing bath!

* used my new Vitamin C face cream and it's AMAZING. My skin still feels silky hours later. Noice!

The next ones are what I'm trying to remember doing for decades when I was younger....

* ordered a HUGE SALAD with pizza at dinner out lol.

* only drank water tonight; not fizzy or commercial juice.

* parked a good walk away from the Theatre on purpose to get a few walks in.

* set up my new blue tooth speaker and am listening to the heavenly Bruno Mars "Grenade" lol.
That's spoiling myself. omg there's an acoustic version wow.

* my chiro told me something to buy and do to increase the healing in my mouth, using a Vitamin oil and drawing it down from behind my ear to my sternum and patting it. I started last night and this morning... unbelievable... it's taken care of the last 10% of pain and swelling, that and the other alternative healing things, yay!

* thinking of avoiding gluten now, like before, it doesn't agree with me.

* the strange thing is that lots of other niggling health problems seem to be dissipating too!
WOW. So I'm thinking of finally joining the adults dance class nearby.

* found out about minerals and Celtic salts in water we drink meaning better hydration... I'm getting a new water purifier soon... Alexa will help me buy one.

I'm finally clearing out all the 'evil' from our home, minds, bodies and souls.

EMxxxx

[ecomama]

Hey self-carers!

I'm enjoying a lovely weekend. Light gentle rain is my fave! lol.

My 3 self-care things today:
* talked with fiancee and he's happy.

* had a nap!

* bought take away for dinner.

Just listening to Yvette playing her guitar and singing. She's pretty chilled and happy atm.

EMxxxx

[Jstar49]

Hi all,

So lovely to read of everyones self caring.... I have a bit of catching up to do. Em I'm sooo glad that your face is healing and the swellings gone down. That oil trick sounded like a good one. I love hands on healing.

Sleepy I love the discussion arising from your boundary setting. I set a boundary last week also, said repeatedly no, I don't want to talk about that. Finally was so triggered that I said "I'm going to have to leave" Nice thing is we all left together, which changed the energy and I think getting out of there was the best thing for my friend too.

Got a lovely thai massage on Friday, as have had a big headache for a few days- she was lovely and more gentle than usual which was just what I needed.

Walked the dog on the beach with family this morning, then bought ice creams- YUM!- then visited the nursery and bought indoor plants. Best day ever. Got home in time for a Christmas movie and the storm.

Best news this week- my H's dr has told him to do all the stuff I have been 'gently suggesting' all year--- cut down on take away food and lollies,less chips, increase exercise, all to help lower his slightly elevated cholesterol. Not a major problem, but I know if he doesn't address it it will lead to other things. So hopefully it will be easier for me soon too, to eat healthier and enjoy exercising with the family. Really glad for this young doctor to have been our local for this short time.

Happy days everyone!

💚J*