Three self-care things you did today!

[ecomama]

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

[Jstar49]

Hey,

So true isn't it!

If it feels like self care, then it is! It's the act of tuning in, for me, and allowing myself to have a say in what I do, especially when I know I'm a bit wobbly.

today I minimised all my expectations for cooking and cleaning and shopping. I had a bath, read my book, and ate a quick noodle stirfry for dinner.

and talked to you guys,

Thankyou

J*

[ecomama]

Hey peeps!

Nice ones everyone!

quirky! Sweet! Your routine sounds pretty awesome actually.

Heavens yeah Sleepy! We're making our own rules for self-care here, why not!

J* HUGS! I know it's tough going atm but you're looking after YOURSELF which what this thread is all about and just to add, our MH recovery.

I lost some of my MH recovery today but I'm finding it again.
LOTS of IRL friends feeling strung out for various reasons, known and unknown.
Can't deal today.

SO today I:

* DIDN'T answer calls from some ppl

* DID answer calls from others. Made the mistake of NOT following my instincts with BF and spoke with him, it ended in hot water... I did what my Counsellor & psych told me to do (for the first time) and ended the call. And didn't text and didn't call him back. Too intense tbh.

* made French toast for breakfast for everyone and even ate a piece myself! Yay lol.

Many Blessings!
Love EM

[Not_Batman]

Nice.

service the car & spent some time with a struggling family member.

so im making a cup of tea, i go to the pantry to get a tea bag out of the jar. I ended up putting my hand into the coffee instead.

merry christmas to you all. I hope you have a relaxing, safe, and joyous day.

Not_Batman

[Guest_1643]

Coffee is always in the wrong place!!

The tea is a nice self-care Not_batman. I hope u have a beautiful night with ur family tonight

[ecomama]

Good morning wonderful self-carers.

This morning I:

* woke extra early - love the dawn

* did some Yoga

* enjoyed lots of cuddles with my pets!

Loving the cool day and light sprinkling rain!

Love EM

[Clues_Of_Blue]

Thanks Not_Batman, and EM. Appreciate the understanding, as always. Not_Batman, nice trick with the coffee, haha. Probably good for your skin, all the skin products have food/beverage ingredients these days! J* you're spot on, this thread simplifies the concept of self care, it's really helpful. 🙂

Okay, today:

- Put a couple of little plaits in my hair. I've always liked them as a not-so-common accent to my style.

- Took some time to answer some posts on here and make space for some pretty heavy thinking on my mind recently.

- Asked my partner to take care of breakfast so I could do the above.

Good self-care work, all. Hope you all have a great day today.

Blue.

[Jstar49]

hello everyone,

beautiful day here in Oz, so grateful for that.

Woke at dawn, and stayed awake to watch D open her pressies. Made us pancakes, which made it feel special.

Made a lovely lunch even tho it was just the 3 of us. That felt good, and much less stressful than the alternatives!

Took a family photo before lunch- even got smiles 🙂

Went for a walk on the beach with the dog (plus kid and H- bit of a miracle actually lol! )

Invited the elderly neighbours over for afternoon tea- which wasn't as stressful as a lunch or dinner, and also makes for some socialising in our day. Win win!

Hope your days are going well,

Love

J*

[ecomama]

Yes!

Great self-care everyone!

I shall continue lol:

* had a drink with Matchy / Mark at 2pm for his mum

* was totally laissez faire with the whole day, all good with the kids sleeping in, all good that a few are back asleep! LOL! All fine with changing menus - whatevs, all good.

* all good with the dogs tramping mud in from the RAIN today, they had fun and we all laughed!

* all fine having Christmas lunch at 6pm lol.

SO COMPLETELY different to the regimented way things used to have to be for those that shall not be named....

So much nicer.
This relaxed attitude is more "me".

Love to you all
EM

[golden82]

Hi EM and all - lovely thread - I have been reading along;

Today being Xmas alone again has been hard. But on reflection have actually been self caring in a different way. I will explain...

Noticing patterns of narc abuse - rather than living in a fog and putting up with it. Therefore early days of 'acceptance' that this is what these people are and starting to use boundaries to protect myself/my soul.

Stayed in bed to protect self from the happy Xmas world around - the walk I had 'planned' just wasn't worth the risk of the emotional pain on a day like today. So the walk can wait and be done tomorrow instead.

Phoned a helpline. Wonderfully kind and patient and knowledgeable girl on the other end. Giving me space to cry/connect with someone; understanding and then keeping me strong in resolve of why I am taking these new beginnings to protect my soul. Rather than to continue to play into the narc abuse/games only to come away crushed again. Keeping on track for hope of healing or at least easing the cPTSD.

Oh, and a fourth - posting/connecting with the kindest souls there are - the BB people. If only I could find people like you all in the 'real world' lol. I hope you are all having as good a Xmas as you can 🙂

Warm Regards.

[Guest_1643]

hi everyone! thanks to all for the posts and welcome

- had a lengthy nap

- turned off my phone for a while to hav a litle needed calm

- watched a light show which upped my mood