Three self-care things you did today!

[ecomama]

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

[ecomama]

Hey Sleepy!

Calm your tresses, lol, I think I'll call you Rapunzel from now on!
You're doing beautiful self-care. So proud of YOU!

Not_Batman - aha... all work and no play they say! Your balance of each sounds spot on!

J* what can I say but I have something lolol.... families can be just another eff word some times.
That's one of mine but you can have it. HUGS!!!
Life can just be a series of "performances" at times also.
Armour on.
Armour off.
Boundaries UP.
Ok we can relax.

Over time I truly believe this can happen less and less OR in fewer settings.
As we LOVE and validate OURSELVES, we allow ourselves to be more and more authentic.

There's nothing more beautiful, than seeing and knowing a person who is AUTHENTIC!
They SHINE!

missep - HI! How awesome to paint your nails AND watch a new show lol!
Miss Multi Tasker lol!
So happy to have you here with us.

When we feel more pressured we NEED more radical self-care.

HIGH FIVE gorgeous people!!

Love EM

[ecomama]

Hey J*

HOPE anchors the soul.

I truly believe that with radical self-care we become stronger and stronger.

Then as we are LOVING ourselves, we shine more of who we actually are OUT to the world.

I hope you're attempting contact. I know this is SO hard. I've been there and it was torture.
SO Put it ALL into yourself!
Then SHINE!

My self-care things today:

* having a "short" nap that lasted 5 hours lol!

* spending time in my garden... awww love all of nature.

* coming on here to spend time with some of the nicest people I know.

Thankyou for being here, you make the world of difference just being YOU!

Love EM

[Jstar49]

Hey Em,

Hope anchors the soul- I like that!

I'm writing another letter, so yes, attempting to stay in contact with D#1. This one is light and chatty and hinting that yes we would like an invite to her wedding......So I guess stating what I want is a good thing. The rest of the family I have to admit is a little toxic, but it's all we have. For my youngest this is important. Boundaries!! And I love the concept of 'performances'! Yes, that's it exactly.

You have such a way with words! And you're so generous with your time and wisdom. I do appreciate you Em, and everyone on here. I feel like finding this space is the best thing I've done all year.

Sleepy/Rapunzel- how beautiful! I always wanted to have curly hair. So wild and free! Girls with curly hair are so very much more bohemian, without even trying. Hair envy!

Today is sunny, and I'm washing, which isn't exactly self care but it's necessary.

I've put on the diffuser, which smells lovely. Cinnamon, pine, orange and frankinsense, because it's really necessary today.

And I'm here, touching base with you folk and getting grounded in looking after myself and keeping it all in perspective.

The sky outside is blue blue blue and the indigo sea is inviting, so maybe a walk and a swim later.

Maybe I'll skip lunch and have black forest cake instead! Is that self care?! Hmm... probs borderline indulgent.....

Cheers everyone,

J*

[Guest_1643]

hi jstar

thats great u were able to buy something with a symbol of hope

hope is very elusive at times. Sometimes it feels like a lie when ppl say "everything will be alright"

sometimes ppl don't even tell me anymore that everything will be alright... and i feel like they know... it won't be

i find hope moves and changes and evolves and is so unpredictable. hold onto that small shred because it is enough.

[Jstar49]

Hey Sleepy,

I know what u mean. That's probs why I feel very hesitant about hope.

This morning it occurred to me that without a vision we can not succeed. (There was a link to The Greatest Showman in my thoughts- bit random but thats usually how it goes!) And then I thought- it needs to be a vision that doesn't rely on others! It needs to be something which truly comes from our hearts and souls, and which is in accord with God/universe/spiritual force.

I think the reason ppl might be hesitant to tell us that everything will be ok is:

A) They don't want to minimise the situation

B) It's up to us to do what we need to do. Others can help us, but they can only offer suggestions which we can try, and which may or may not work.

My faith in a higher power does help me to trust in a force for good. It keeps me focused on doing good even tho bad is done to me, or even when it all seems so bad I've got no idea how this will turn out well. And sometimes, the only good thing is that I grow in strength and wisdom for the next challenge. It's relentless!

Today I found the zucchini slice I baked yesterday, so I was able to have lunch followed by cake, instead of just cake! Self care in advance!

And now I'm worn out. So maybe a nap is in order, instead of the busy afternoon I had planned. Emotional healing work is tiring!

Sleepy thankyou for your encouraging and caring comments over the forum. I really appreciate you.

🙂 J*

[Clues_Of_Blue]

Hi all,

I'm afraid the thread has gotten so busy my brain can't organise itself enough to reply to people directly - life is sorely overwhelming me at the moment. I am taking on board the conversation though, the openness and courage and connection happening here, and I respect that. You guys are doing great.

In the last couple of days:

- Bought myself a new dress (and a yummy Boost juice) whilst waiting for the key guy to replace the battery in my car key.

- Opted out of attending a family dinner tonight that I'm just not up to around everything else at the moment.

- Am making sure to take breaks between jobs around the house and play music that soothes my soul (Caligula's Horse) while I'm doing them.

[Not_Batman]

Hi blues, i guess the thread is a bit like out brains. We start on one thing, then get side tracked, and then trail off onto something else.

dont worry about it, the main thing is that you are doing self care, and getting ideas on self care from others, and some friendly supportive conversation.

Not_Batman

[ecomama]

Hey everyone!

RIGHT ON Not_Batman, hey Blue! Take what you need or want to!

No pressure at all to respond to the convo. I'm just so glad it's helping you.

The opportunity to share and connect here is a privilege for me.

If one thing or ANY thing helps, then it's so worth it.

I have a headache atm lol... talking to BF today was extremely emotional for him. Christmas is such a special time in our r/ship since we met on the U.S. Christmas Day so it's compounded by not seeing each other now for 2 of our Anniversaries.

But I did a true ecomama and turned it into why I'm so grateful we found each other and a strong love together that is withstanding so freaking much LOL!
LONG convo. All good now.

Hey J* and our sweetest Rapunzel lol... anything YOU think is self-care IS self-care! Throw black forest cake in there, why not!

We're making our OWN minds up here. So it is whatever you say it is. GO WILD! hahaha

So after today, some radical self-care is needed lol...
* I'm ordering Thai for dinner.

* Having a relaxing bath, oh yeah!

* can't think of a 3rd lol.... maybe eating some fresh fruit and possibly yoghurt for dessert, IDK yet.

A solid night ahead of wrapping pressies, prepping food and MOVING furniture ofcourse!

I'm getting far more radical in my minimalism mode in the shadow of Blue's Clues and her inspirational thread on same topic.
I love it when our bins are full lol!!

Take great care everyone!
LOVE YOU LOTS!!

Love EM

[quirkywords]

Self care

went on two walks

allowed myself to rest as was very tired

did some writing

[Guest_1643]

I love what you said Em

anything you think is self-care is self-care

this is a great thread because it demystifies the whole concept

it has helped me heaps, so thank u

I love the smallest self care acts which stand out to me as radical

bring it on for 2021 self care