Life Is Random & Pointless

[Realist_Sapien]

Welcome to my first post, just to disclaim this has nothing to do about me being depressed or suicidal.

I just cant get over how unbelievably pointless & painful this life factly is, now when i say this i don't mean that we should all just stop what we're doing & start staring at a wall, but its really important to not be naive about this, which is kinda what society is, a whole cesspool of contradictions & distractions, most of the things that we do nowadays are to just feed the mind & keeping the body satitsfied from breaking down too suddenly by stimulation such as releasing chemical rewards, all these can be achieved but cant always guaranteed happiness, which is another thing i cant stand about this civilisation or should i say work in progress, its almost like if you cant be happy to a certain extend or people please to fulfill theyre jester full desires, theyre gonna be contempt of you no matter what, all becuase you cant live up to absurd expectations, nobody's gonna be problem free in this world, which is why most of the things we do are just to kill time, which is why i can understand why people get addicted to things, because we live in a reality thats pretty disappointing, even those things have a limit, it may be giving you relief, but realise it never lasts long, only because we're not so used to looking into healthier outlets, to be honest i dont think we live in a healthy world, most things are instant gratification, chasing pleasure, looks maxing, because sooner or later you have to ask yourself why do we need all these things just to get by in life that never lasts forever, its only awkward at first when youre not so used to asking such things, like being conditioned since the start of birth, by people who arent even aware themmelves of whats going on around them, but expect you to know what you wanna do when really its not as straight forward as anyone thought is was gonna be, for pete sake, people cant even figure out what theyre gonna do next weekend, yet they expect you to have your future figured out, we live in a double standard judgemental condescending populous, which is why its very important to see behind the scenes in everything, its dangerous to be gullible by believing everything you see or hear, It is quite certain that society doesnt really do a good job teaching these sort of attributes.

Stupid how they only give you 2500 characters, its like theyre allergic to hear what people really have to say, anyway thank's for reading.

[Realist_Sapien]

Society is... very.. very... "fake", nothing you do is ever appreciated unless you make a mistake, we overlook one another, we treat eachother as expendable resources, we look down on one another, we make fun of each others misfortunes, we have a tendency to take advantage on others, we make life harder than it has to be because we can't help ourselves by being too complex, people pretend to be nice when theyre only trying to see what they can get out of you, people have a habit of carrying a god complex as if theyre somehow the chosen ones, we're ruled by leaders that are cowards & sadistic manipulators, our bosses & co workers can snitch you out by whatever excuse they can plot as they see fit, authoritarians pretend to be youre friend when really theyre just as corrupt, we pretend to be there for someone when really its more of a reputation to maintain, even our own friends & family can be such swindlers.

We all live through a paradigm camouflaged by fisades, fonts, mirages, liars, patroniser's, persona's, you know its hilarious how i hear people say to me that "this is the reality we live in", well if thats the case then no wonder things are the way they are, its like we gotta be so cliche to the point we're unconsciously manifesting absurd behaviours as acceptable just to go around & telling others the same thing, then people wonder why things arent turning out well for them, why nothing's going their way, theyre gonna beat themselves up thinking its their fault, that they're not good enough or feel like theyre not acceptable to society, oh im not useful enough, that im unlovable, i dont have what it takes etc.

When it comes down to it all, it really is all about survival, i mean you think we're all here doing what we are doing because we enjoy it, because there's some bigger intrinsic meaning to all this, nah nah, we're all just here to keep our head afloat, because once you step out of line & start drowning, its gonna be really difficult to win your dignity back, now people know this which is why we try to keep it a low profile, at the same time i cant blame them, but just goes to show the kind of society we put up with.

Its no wonder why you see folks discouraging, insulting themselves, having mental breakdowns, being secretive about their true feelings, just know that you're not the failure, societies the true failure.

A fast pace globe that demands & demands, we're just tools pretty much, seen as assets.

Thanks

[white knight]

Hi again,

Community Champions here are those with a vast array of life experiences. We are not professional medical people. So we use our experiences to tap into so we can steer members towards a possible solution to their problems.

One problem we sometimes have is identify the real issue so we can refer to other more professional resources or help solve problems with solutions we found helpful.

With your posts I'm finding it difficult in that identification. I do see an overall confusion of society, lack of accepting how humans behave and how society has developed. If you think I helped at all with your first post then I'm happy to continue conversing. But I really need you to help us with your own thoughts on where you pin point your main issues. eg how do you see yourself compared to the average person? Is there any childhood reason you can think of that has led to your views? Have you had any professional treatment for any mental illness? Do you have any insight to your own misgivings? Is there any envy present for other people that seem content with life? What do you like about yourself? Do you have hobbies, sports, interests?

I am here daily and can respond.

TonyWK

[randomxx]

Hi there op.

There's good and bads everywhere, we gotta remember that sometimes, in any country and population no matter how saintly they appear on tv. We have to find our good in our own worlds, people that work with similar ideals and values- which don't grow on trees for any of us so should we be so lucky , appreciate them and move along from others. 

Sadly in Aus these days and especially in this last decade or two, people are forced to work both ends and strive to cope and acquire all the while with soulless Govs usually making all that even harder and while never even mentioning words like friends, family, good will, looking after ea other, to their people, media's no better.

It's all a numbers and gdp's and taxes and economy and crime and more rules more rules to control us all mentality and v sadly that's all gone through to our people to. Doesn't mean we have to except it though or become the same. Some countries and gov's stress the first part in their people but here they skip any of that and just get straight onto the last parts and so unfortunately this is what we get.

Fortunately there are still though plenty of good people out there, the kind the are impressed by the things that really matter or at least a mix of the both and there's nothing wrong with that part.

Come back and chat with Tonywk and others , he has much people experience and can guide you in many ways toward the ones that really matter in life, they are around, know some myself thkfully.

Good luck

rx 

[Realist_Sapien]

Sorry man, didnt recieve your other post, happens with me too.

Do i see myself to be a higher being, i wouldnt say that.. im just an average folk like all else expressing my mind, do i expect to help everyone to understand & agree with my saying's... no of course not & im okay with that, i dont claim to know everything or be an expert narrator, even if they do seem controversial & automatically equate in need for professional help or whatever that means, i mean who doesnt have issues right, do i have hobbies & interests, yea i mean they do distract me from reality, yes & no it depends, do I envy anyone who's content with their lives, sometimes im susceptible to that, what do I like about myself, I guess being able to find new cope's, new tolerances to make life more bearable not where i indulge in toxic substances, no no, but i get why others do it, & thats it just here to share my thoughts.

[white knight]

Sharing thoughts is good. That all helps me know your dont have major issues along the lines of mental health issues.

Even the strongest of humans find life challenging.  In my 20's I'd ride my motorbike up t he mountains with the intent on not returning but I always did.

RandonX understands that also

TonyWK 

[smallwolf]

hello and welcome.

some of the things you have mentioned in your opening post I have said to my psychologist. Perhaps on more than one occasion. Each time however, she reminds me that not everyone is like that. There are indeed good people. Some of it might be shaped by our experiences, things that have happened to us in the past? And it does suck when things happen that taint how we think about others. Finding even one or two people who aren't 'faking it' can help to the survival part a little easier?! You aren't alone in feeling this way.

Listening if you want to chat more.

[Realist_Sapien]

I'll agree, I like to believe there's honest good folks out there too, its just hard to tell if its unconditional by rarity, since being good can have standards involved unless theres reciprocation which you do get others expecting from each other, depending on the individual, thats just how I look at it, so im not trying to expose anybody.

Me personally tv just gives mind rot, its just not as constructive nor entertaining like it used to just hypnotising production, especially the media, just too much.

Now yea there can be goods & bads i wont lie about that, though when you really look at it, most good experiences are hard to come by, due to all the excessive mishaps that people are forced to go through & put up with against their own will, so yes its possible to enjoy things, but its important to not be oblivious of our surroundings, afterall we do co exist with it & yes it isnt always pretty to observe.

Yea its a shame how things are being run here, not just here though i think its being done on purpose in other parts, dont get me wrong we do have things we can appreciate from at least, but it is starting to feel like a penitentiary prison.

[therising]

Hi Realist_Sapien

I think one of the most challenging things in life involves navigating how to feel what we gradually become conscious of. A lot of the things you mention were never a problem when we weren't fully conscious of them and they wouldn't be a problem if we didn't start to feel them so much. I find it tends to be about 1)how to manage awareness and 2)how to feel constructively. Definitely not easy at times, on both counts, but I've found that if I don't address such things it can seriously impact my sense of wellbeing and level of sanity.

I find

• If I don't become more conscious of amazing caring people such as smallwolf, white knight and randomxx then I'm only conscious of feeling the self serving nature of people who don't care about making a positive difference to others
• If I don't become conscious of the need for a sense of humor at times, I'd become as insane as the rest of the world (in general). Whether it involves the Kardashian family's butt implants, gang members who wear their jeans so low to the point they could fall off at any moment or the fact that a certain number of Americans chose to vote in a sociopath, some things are more laughable than others. With that last one, definitely no laughing matter at times
• Becoming conscious of the need to maintain a healthy balance between modern progress and some of the things, habits or beliefs from the good old days is an absolute must, in my opinion. As a gal born in 1970, I acknowledge reading from a Kindle has its benefits but it lacks the sensory experience and the soulfulness of a physical book. And while I acknowledge an incredibly super dark side to the internet, if not for the internet we wouldn't be meeting on the forums here. Nothing wrong with a small dose of the internet for the right reasons

I could go on with a whole stack of examples of how to feel at a level of consciousness that can seriously challenge us at times. 

While many times I was led to believe 'sensitive people are weak' (myself included) or 'sensitivity is something to be ashamed of', I eventually discovered the truth or what you could call 'a reality shift'. Sensitive people are simply people who can sense more than others. They can sense what is enraging, what is depressing, what is socially insane. The can sense disappointment when they feel it, injustice when they feel it and a world gone mad when they feel it. They can sense the parasitic nature of mainstream media, an industry that feeds on fear, heartbreak, despair and more and they can sense the nature of their own inner dialogue (depressing or uplifting). Whether those who can sense so much and so easily switch off from what they can feel, seek out those who do care, return or turn again to joyful ways etc etc is something that involves a shift in consciousness and sometimes a sense of desperation or much needed change. With two sides to the 'sensitive' coin, we can feel both the dark and the bright side, something that requires serious management and self mastery.

[Realist_Sapien]

Whats up y'all, today Im gonna talk about how "working is not working."

Isn't it just crazy & concerning how much time we put in & think about our job's unless you like what you do you know.

Concurrently & not ashamed to say, i just dont care about the workforce & i never did, I only do it because I have no other choice, thing is if i dont then im gonna be out on the street, not because "i want to" where i get others misinterpreting saying what's that... you dont wanna work.. whats wrong with you bro, no man whats wrong with (you), like why do you buy into this so much, just like the phrase you'd hear being thrown around how "nobody wants to work anymore," now i dont know where that originated from, but some people need to understand that not everyone's gonna have a passion, not everyone's gonna like what theyre doing, & not everyones gonna be in this together, me personally I'd do solo if I could because I just dont like working with others, theres just too much drama, too much gossiping, too much nagging, too much fake enthusiasm, alot sarcasm, no accountability, working without the right compensation, always hearing coworkers telling me how they hate their jobs & how boring which i can understand where theyre coming from, & just too much on our mental health, like you can work in any industry depending on your status, but you cant be free without money ruling over your life, how amazing ain't it.

Now i understand how we need to provide for ourselves, but at the end of the day, these companies just dont care about us, then expect us to pour our optimism with so little in return as a way of saying thank you, bragging about how they give us work life balance & get payed enough just to pay all these bills just to keep our job's & do it all over again for years to come, what kind of life is this, how can anyone not be annoyed by this, unless you dont question anything & just go with the flow, then i wish I was you then, seriously.

I had many jobs before & I will say people do treat you differently based on your job title, its a bias we have a bad habit of doing, just know that i dont care what profession you do, i dont care what your salary is, i dont care if youre unemployed, i treat you just like i would wanna be treated vice versa okay, all this status stuff needs to be thrown in the trash because we're no different from eachother & life is tough, if youre lucky enough to not be part of this scheme, dont ever feel bad man, do what aligns with you.

Signing out.