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BOREDOM...the closed door to fun?

white knight
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Depression, and I'm no expert - just a sufferer as my wife is, comes in many forms and we are all in different circumstances. That includes work, school, married, single, unemployed and the endless other differences.

What I have noticed in my last 20 years of life is the connection of being busy to less periods of depression. I've had interests in the past of vintage car restoration, gardening, building my own home and model airplanes. Clearly, the worst period of depression were during the times I was not involved in any of these interests. And when not involved I was also, among many reasons, not financially strapped enough to be involved....eg broke.

This is not including the traumatic times of broken marriages etc.

I've noticed some posters mention boredom as being their arch enemy and thought I'd make a topic out of it. So what can we do?  I feel very sorry for sufferers of depression when they have zero hobbies, zero interests in sport and even basic activities like walking or cycling. I cant conceive why anyone wouldnt like to go on a daily walk. But then I dont live their lives and we, as compassionate human beings should accept that we are all different. However, what is there to achieve on a walk?  Back to nature, fresh air, saying hello to passer bys, watching birds and the unexpected happenings.

Depression though, is a state of mind that, regardless of the listed positives, has you firstly in a mood that wont get you to even place your runners on let alone walk the 3-4 kms to make the walk worthwhile.

Ok, hobbies. I flew radio controlled model airplanes with a club. I spent countless hours building and repairing them. Flying was fun. For insurance purposes I needed to be a member of a club. The **** committee members always threw their weight around even if you didnt do wrong. The nature of the narcissist. Hence a reason I hate clubs. Very few people know how to approach a grown adult with a simple request without an authoritarian voice.

It was one of many reasons I left the hobby. But now, my interest is in motorcycles and tinkering with them, in my own shed with limited stranger contact. I'm happy as I've found the happy medium. Bit of gardening, bit of tinkering, bit of camping.

If you are bored, if you havent filled your mind with thoughts of a hobby or sport then seriously consider the change it could make. Many times when you are depressed might have been different with....mind diversion.  Hope this is of value to some.

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Hi Tony,

Yes definitely did 🤗

Also made my self go fishing yday with hubby,it was great to do something outside of home.

Busy is the best, so long as it doesn't create more mess or turn into manic.

How are you going?

Later

Hi later,

Doing fine. All of my threads (about 140 now) have been from experience. I am too impatient to read much. I've had about 80 jobs and 15 professions due to mania and anxiety. I was also diagnosed with bipolar 2 and depression.

So the knowledge comes from cramming in 3 lifetimes into 1. This has also given reason for burnout hence retirement came 4 years ago at 57yo.

With this thread I studied myself. I went to my shed when depressed only to find my mood improved when I get busy.

Tony WK

I have decided to call you owl. Not saying you are old cause your not. You just have so much wisdom and a nice,peaceful answer to all. Hope you don't mind.😳

I have to tell you what I want to sink my teeth (funny none ATM) We have an old bus we bought that is sitting at our dam. It is a big old camping bus,it pretty much needs to be gutted.

Just thought you would like that.

Later

Hi later,

"The owl". Sounds good lol.

The old bus might cost a fair bit to run on a holiday.

We are heading off on a holiday on Monday, our old convertible car towing a caravan I built. We are always busy. That means we try to have fun regardless of lifes struggles.

Tony WK