Unsupportive Family

Lanno
Community Member

More and more recently, my girlfriend has been bullied by her parents. The are very religious, and very homophobic. We are lesbians, and have decided that the best thing for her to do is to move out to get away from them, and instead live with me and my housemates, who are my old high school friends.

My girlfriend has intense anxiety, and is on medication but hasn't been able to find a psychologist that is the right fit for her. Our relationship is good, and her moving in will be a great improvement for her mental health. The problem is that her parents have a strong Greek background, meaning they really don't want her to leave them. Her parents have been emotionally manipulative, and it's really damaging. She hasn't been able to come out to them, so she has to say she's moving in with friends.

She doesn't know how to tell her mum that she is moving out, and knows that once she leaves her parents, they will divorce. I guess what I'm asking is for some advice to make her transition as easy as possible because I know she's really anxious about the impact this will have on her family and herself), and for suggestions on how she can tell her mum. Maybe even for support organisations? I can't find any that seem to offer the right services.

Thanks in advance.

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Embracing_Tiger
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Lanno,

You're so supportive to your girlfriend! Unfortunately it can be really hard for LGBTI kids of conservative religious parents - like your girlfriend's parents. My parents are also religious, and it was tough when I first came out. It took time, longer than I liked, but they are better now, not perfect though. 

I found the The Greek & Gay Support Network which have monthly meetings in Melbourne. Maybe your girlfriend would be interested? They also have personal stories on their website, and a Facebook support page. 

Hope that the move was okay!

ET