Tips for a gay, hopeless romantic

[TheoWulf]

Hello, world.

I've grown into high school as a hopeless romantic. I'm constantly longing for some form of relationship, as I have a couple of friends who fell in love and it's made me kinda jealous. However, my big problem is that I'm gay in a Christian school, meaning my sexuality is kind of against what the teachers and the school overall says. Plus, I'm only two years into teenagehood.

What should I figure out first? Am I mentally ready to start something? How will my friends react?

Theo.

[Aaronsis]

Hi Theowulf

Welcome and it is great to have you on the forums. I wanted to say how brave and strong and courageous you are.

It is not easy being a teen these days, I have a 13 yo daughter and a 15 yo son, so I get to see the struggles they go through each day, but I think you have so very much self awareness and that is brilliant.

I think we all want love and acceptance in our lives and you are no different in that, I think it is so beautiful that you describe yourself as a hopeless romantic, see I understand that to be a person who loves the idea of love and loves being in love, there is nothing wrong with that. I hear that seeing your friends having successful relationships is making you feel jealous, of course it is as you want this badly for yourself too, most of us do. I am wondering though if there are other ways that you can meet people that does not involve school. I understand that school is somewhat of a barrier for a person with same sex interests, however there are many other ways to meet people that don't involve school. I get that as a young person you spend a lot of time at school so it is hard to avoid having feelings for people you spend so much time with.

I am not able to answer your question for you as in which one should you figure out first, I feel like they will figure themselves out when the time is right. You will know when you have met someone and you will know if you want to start a relationship with them. I don't think it is an age or matter of mental state thing, just two people figuring out if they like one another, this happens at 14 and at 44.

As far as your friends go, they probably know you better than you think and I am sure that they will love and support you and treat you the very same way. Being gay in 2019 is very different to when I was at school, I am not gay but my friend was and I watched him have this battle, and I am so pleased that we have progressed with acceptance of people in every way of life.

You are so very brave Theowulf and I wish you every success on your journey for love.

Come back and chat soon

Hugs

AS

[TheoWulf]

Hey, Aaron. Just call me Theo.

Thanks for the support, your words really made me feel better and helped me understand that I'm not alone. I think I figured out my path for right now and I've decided not to get into a relationship yet. I'm still young, and I just don't think I'm ready for something like that. Maybe once I'm 16, give or take a year.

Theo.

[Aaronsis]

Hey Theo

I am actually Sarah..lol....but pleased to meet you regardless...I am so pleased that you have found an answer to your question and that you have decided to give yourself some time. That to me sounds like a great idea. I hope that you come back to chat some more and let us know how you are going and how you are feeling.

Hope today is a good one for you Theo.

Hugs

Sarah

[TheoWulf]

Hey Sarah (oops, sorry. ^^")

I'll be sure to keep y'all updated. Have a good one.

Theo ❤️

[Aaronsis]

Haha....all good Theo, how would you have known.

My username is actually my brother's name.

You have a great day.

S

[Guest_10174]

Hi Theo, how are you? I’m Ramon, a 36 year lgbt nurse ally. I’m a hopeless romantic as well. Ill try give you wisdom and advice from my perspective.  Its great you are discovering more about yourself and what you want. beyond your school hours, I suggest learning more about the LGBTQIA+ community and to learn the different groups and advocacies you can join. better to have older LGBT brothers and sisters to guide you. 

LGBT people date nowadays in dating apps like tinder and hinge and do speed dating but better if you are already 18 years old legal age. im sure your mom and or a close friend will accept and support you whenever. you just need to find your community where you belong to. hit me up when you have questions.