Dear Nia~
I"d like to give you a warm welcome here at the Forum, a good move on you part and you can get other people's perspectives and maybe see things if a fresh way.
I can understand it can be worrying not the know for certain if you are lesbain or bi, however I guess I'd like to say two things.
Sexual preference is only part of you , there is an awful lot more - regard yourself as a package deal, preference does not make you any the less a worthy, thoughtful and attractive a person
Being able to attach a label to yourself may have certain attractions, you join an established section of society and may feel less alone, however there is no guarantee that label will be a good fit.
If you thought of yourself as one of the group in society labeled 'uncertain' or 'developing' then that may be a more comfortable fit. Learning about yourself is a lifetime occupation, and a time goes on your will be presented with new situations and how you react tells you a little more about yourself.
One other thing that I think is important, and I'd expect you may have thoght of this already. Attraction to another person may well start out physical but very quickly has to include kindness, reliability, fun, and a whole load of other things for you to have a happy secure relationship.
If you would like to talk to someone or read more about your situation I'd suggest QLife which is pretty good and has lots to offer. They accept phone calls or web-chat.
You can be sure you will always be welcome here
Croix
