Just wondering, if you could change your sexuality or gender identity, would you?

Gruffudd · ‎12-11-2015

There was a time when I would have just to escape the negativity that some people have, and curiosity. Now though the answer is no, because despite everything if I changed either I wouldn't be me anymore. When I make a list of the good stuff in my life, what I enjoy and what makes me happy, most of the things are related to being gay or gender queer. I feel kind of lucky.

gibby3794 · ‎12-11-2015

my answer now is no I wouldn't, a few years ago I would have but now that I've come to terms with who I am and all of my family and friends are accepting no I would not change it...

justinok · ‎13-11-2015

Life would sure be a hell of a lot easier sometimes, but no. The good outweighs the bad most of the time.

Paul · ‎14-11-2015

I don't think I would.

As everyone has mentioned, the work we have put in to accept ourselves means that more change would be difficult OR if I were born straight, not getting to kiss guys would be a big loss *grin*.

I think ultimately when we accept ourselves, whatever or whoever we are is just naturally part of us so any thought to the contrary would be unnatural.

Paul

Embracing_Tiger · ‎17-11-2015

I would like to say an absolute "no", but I can't. My emotional reaction to the question is of ambivalence, because I think that my life would be easier (read: happier) if I was a hetero cis guy with all the privileges. Ignorance is bliss, so they say.

When I think about this more, I realise that being different from the norm has opened my eyes to the rainbow that is life, rather than black and white. Being a part of a stigmatised minority community (e.g. the LGBTIQA+ and mental illness) and experiencing pain and suffering because of it, has made me more empathetic, more open to new ideas and stronger. This understanding of the difference of others highlights the sameness of others. I like to think that I am a better person because of it and that my experiences have fundamentally shaped who I am. And that person is fine enough.

Though, I am glad that I live in Australia, where I can live without extreme fear. I am a lot more privileged than other LGBTIQA+ people in other countries.