I fall in love with every person that gets too close to me

[bonkberry]

I'm a girl btw. I've had multiple best friends, and if it got to a point, even if we were strictly platonic, or they weren't LGBT, i'd still somehow want to fall in love with her, be with them the whole day, hugs, kisses & the like etc. Is this normal help

[Sophie_M]

Hi Bonkberry,

Thank you so much for sharing here. It takes genuine courage to open up about feelings that can be confusing or hard to talk about.

You are not alone in what you are feeling, and it is perhaps more ‘normal’ thank you might be feeling! Emotional closeness and connection can blur the lines between platonic and more than friends.

The good news is that There’s no “right” way to feel, and you don’t need to have all the answers right now. It’s okay to be unsure about what those feelings mean and not quite sure how to label them. Attraction and emotional connection can be fluid, and it’s normal to explore and question them as you grow and learn more about yourself.

If you ever feel overwhelmed or want to talk more about this in a safe space, Beyond Blue counsellors are available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or online, here. Headspace are another good option, too. Available on 1800 650 890 or online.

Thank you again for sharing here. You’re not alone in this, and your feelings are valid – even if they feel a little confusing right now. 💙

Take care of yourself,
Sophie M
 

[sbella02]

Bonkberry,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us, we warmly welcome you to the forums. 

These kinds of feelings are very common, particularly for people in the LGBTQIA+ community who are also in their adolescence. Regardless of how old you are, these feelings are pretty normal, yes.

I gather that you may also be wanting to make sense of why you're feeling this way. If you do, I may be able to offer some help in that space. I am bisexual and have had much experience with questioning what certain feelings mean.

I have a few questions that may be useful to consider when trying to make sense of your feelings:

• Why do I want to spend so much time with this person? 
• Do my specific desires of what I would like from each person change depending on the person? Or, have these feelings been the same for everybody I become close to?
• Have my specific desires of what I would like from each person changed?
• Where else do I get this level of affection in my life, if at all?
• When I say "want to fall in love with her", what do I mean by this?

I hope these questions can offer you some clarity with your feelings, please feel free to keep chatting with us some more if you'd like. We're here to support you.

All the best, SB