Dear New Member~
Welcome here to the Forum, a good place to bring problems. It is very hard to know your self in relation to many things, not just sexual identity. I do think it is unlikely that you can 'talk yourself' into anything, and if you like women then that is a starting point, no need to overthink it..
It can be very worrying if a person cannot fit themselves neatly into a particular category, however life is not always black and white. Experience, when it arrives, will tell you more. If you have not fallen in love or had a crush then it is something still to come.
Please do not rush into anything just to find out who you are. If you think on the values the other person needs to have for you -irrespective of gender - such as kindness, consideration and is enjoyable to be with and has great affection for you it puts the correct priorities in place . Similarly if you reflect on the qualities you can bring to the relationship, and I am sure you have many.
Can I suggest you get in contact with others who understand how things are. The Kids Help Line is one place to start, you could talk on the phone or use text/webchat 24/7. They will give assistance in many areas including sexual identity.
You will get there.
Croix
