Anxiety is about to ruin a relationship.

[preichst]

Hello out there. I’m currently struggling with what I think is anxiety. I’m up and down all the time and can barely concentrate on work or study at the moment. I’m also in a wonderful relationship that I feel I may jeopardise if I don’t get myself together. One minute things feel great and secure the next I feel terrified of being completely alone and hurt again. I can’t control my feelings and I can’t control my thoughts. Any sense of happiness feels momentary and elusive. I don’t know what to do and I’m terrified about how I will be if this relationship ends. I feel alone and I shouldn’t.

[Bann284]

Hi preichst,

I can completely relate to how you are feeling. The best advice I can offer you through personal experience, is to first of all talk to someone. Consider chatting to your GP who may be able to refer you to a counsellor. Second of all, talk to your partner about the way you are feeling. This may be hard but communication in your relationship is key. Your partner may have no idea that something is wrong, or may sense something is wrong and not know what the problem is. Your partner may turn out to be the best support for you. I feel that in a committed relationship, two people not only love each other, but also support each other through the hard times.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find the help that you're after. 🙂

[CHE]

Hello there,

Might be that I too have anxiety and have experienced these same doomed thoughts, it's horrible and feels like you can't enjoy the relationship because you have this on your mind.

I know this may be completely preachy, but I've found going to a counsellor has helped me immensely. Advice from friends and family can at times be coming from a good place but be more detrimental to your mental health. I see a big difference from my past relationships to the one I'm in now because of this.

Added note: I went to a counsellor who specialised in Gay & Lesbian counselling.

I feel Bann284 is right on the money.

🙂