Am I bisexual?

Callum_a
Community Member

I sit here struggling to put words on the page. I am not comfortable with this topic at all. I’m currently seeing a psychologist and I haven’t been able to discuss anything about sexuality yet. I’ve always thought of myself as a straight male, I never had any thoughts about being gay when I was younger though I was shocked when people said they thought I was gay. I feel like I have to confront this. I get thoughts about men all the time. I get the same thing with women as well, I grew up attracted to girls. It’s recent that I’ve had thoughts about men. I know that I’m somewhere on the spectrum but I am absolutely terrified of taking any action. It’s like I’ve been slugged with this issue that is affecting all other areas of my life. Also, I am 21 years male.

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C4
Community Member
Hi Callum glad you responded to our posts and well done on seeing a Counsellor and your right it will take some time to get used to just being you . I go to counseling every fortnight and I still get emotional in there as it brings up things I thought I’d dealt with and I’m 46 and came out 18 months ago. It doesn’t matter how old you are when you come out there’s always an element of fear in the unknown and of the future. I’ve joined a couple of local groups in my area one meets for a lunch every month at a local coffee shop and another i joined last week does ten pin bowling so that should be good . I’m glad your going ok and hope to hear from you soon . Craig

Only_I_know
Community Member

Hey Craig, hope you are well.

how did the ten pin bowling go? You need to let us know!

have a great weekend.

Daz

C4
Community Member
Hi Darren I didn’t go this Thursday as my other group had something on which I’d forgotten about but am going next Thursday so I’ll let you know how it went it sounds like fun . Talk soon Craig

Ruby__2
Community Member

Hey Callum,

Welcome to the forums.You may well be bi.I have been married for 32yrs to a man who has just disclosed he is having issues with this .

Please seek advice. However you identify is YOU. I don't like labels, it confines us. You are young,one life to live, go forward and be your authentic self.

Don't know if I have helped,but I do wish you the best. Plenty of help and advice available here.

Ruby 2xx