Worrying

[Jan]

My son is an alcoholic and has had a terrible last few months following a relationship breakdown.  He was so unwell with 36 hours of drinking straight at one point , ambulance visits and two attempts of suicide.  Through some good medical treatment he is getting back on track but I find myself worrying about him so much of the time.  We don’t live together, he is 36. His sister is also deciding to “have a break” from the issues at the moment and that causes me to get even more upset. I have my own mental health problems.  Any suggestions on getting stronger? 

[indigo22]

Hi Jan,

I see you have been a member for some time, I am glad you have chosen to reach out.

I can only imagine how much worry you have experienced with your son in recent months, I have never had children but that doesn't mean I can't empathise.

I wonder if you have ever reached out to Al-Anon for comfort and advice, or perhaps attend meetings in your area or online. I have included their information below in case you need it. Trying to handle this all by yourself will not be good for your health in the long term.

I think it is wise of your daughter to take a break, she is exhibiting self-love and self-compassion by doing this.

Compassion fatigue is a very real problem that many don't recognise until they themselves begin to develop mental health issues.

Al-Anon - 1300 252 666 - I'm sorry but I am not sure of their hours of operation

I hope this is helpful to you and please feel free to continue the conversation.

Take care of yourself,

indigo

[Mindy1]

Hi Jan, my 49yr old son had the exact same problem, but didn't receive the help from his family & he finally died all alone, as I had no idea where he was, but his family did.

Keep the lines of communication by yourself & daughter open no matter what.

Just be there for him, showing him love. 💛💛

[Geoff7]

Jan, i'm a member of AA. Please try and get your son to a meeting, there are loads everyday in the major cities.

Don't try and do this alone. AA is the place for him, there's hundreds of people with similar stories who can help him. 

[Jan]

Thank you I will reach out. 

[Jan]

Thank you for replying I am so sorry to hear about your son .