I'm a middle aged mother of two school aged children. I recently found content/downloands on my husbands computer by accident of school girls in private school uniform from leading private girls schools in our City. There are over 50 or 60 downloaded photos from the private sc schools. Although no Child Pornography on computer there is a lot of adult pornography links saved in bookmarks along with the downloads of school girls ranging in age from Kindergarten through to Senior years and only has private school girl photos. ie not from boys or co-ed private schools. The images have been filed in his computer with code names etc. Although innocent enough if there were a few - there are just fairly excessive given that they are tied up with Pornographic adult websites on comp as well. These girls are my childrens ages so I am sure their parents would be horrified if they knew this. We don't know the girls but they are just photos taken perhaps by the inhouse school photographer of girls in uniform on their school grounds. Around 6 or 8 private schools were targeted within our city.
It has affected me so much for some reason. I did confront my husband about it and said I came across some downloads of these images but he became so frighteningly angry that I was a "snoop" and bullied me into believing that I had done something wrong by using his computer. He has since deleted all the evidence although I have proof still as I made sure of this. When he became angry I backed down and did not demand for an answer as to why he had them. In the meantime I rang a domestic violence talk line and they ended up reporting it to Child Protection Services (they had my details/phone number from a past violent incident involving one of my children with their father). The Child Protection rang me the next day and visited me to chat to me about whether or not there was a child protection issue within our house. They felt it was not appropriate to question my husband about why he had images of such despite being extremely alarming and bizarre. After a 2 hour visit in my home when my husband was at work they felt they cant approach him about it due to safety issues.
I am now beside myself if my husband finds out that all these people know - he is going to hit the roof. I'm so scared I can't cope.
God that'd be such a shock, wow and his anger doesn't sit well
Do you have a close friend or family member or two that you can talk to about this as well for back up if need be with his temper and that he's now cornered and if he does find
You could ring here on 1300224636, they
What I'm equally blown away with is the child protection saying it's inappropriate to question him...WHAT THE...but maybe because of potential violence to you but still. Surely this would be something they need to check into further.
Well done getting proof, thinking on your feet.
So he's been violent with one of the kids, what about you? & that he bullied you into making it seem you're in the wrong is he a domineering type? You sound strong darl hold onto that you've done everything right
This is very hard to ask and probably be very hard to hear but can I as gently as possible suggest you ask your children in a round about way if everything's ok
Please continue to talk here anytime. I'm truly sorry for your situation
God this must be soul crushing. So what they just bloody leave it as is for beep sake.
God it's a hard one
How's he been since you confronted him?
Have the kids at any time
You poor darling
Glad you're seeing a psych was
Yeah was thinking same thing about leaving, was going to approach you soon about that too.
It could be damaging to your son, is he old enough to talk to about why which would be a hell hard talk but he
I think you'd find in these circumstances and you have the proof too that he'd be ordered to go with you but then there'd probs be resentment.
What a mongrel of a position you're in.
Do you have a good relationship with your son?
GOD this is just so WRONG, I can't see you but I'm hearing you and you are one incredibly strong good lady & fantastic Mum
Although we don't know who's doing a thumbs up, I usually do esp if I can't get back immediately which I do have to choof for a bit but will be back today all going well
Glad you're in a good with son, what a beautiful kid looking out for his little sister and at this
POWER to you, are you able to get any extra psych consults at all, just thinking also is there a number you can talk through this regularly actually quicker would be to ring here 1300224636 cause they maybe can put you onto a support line.
What about ringing Child protection again cause they know the score, I get the DV part but it's still sounding poor on their part because of the obvious BUT if they can't help more could ask if there's a support no:
Sorry I know I'm