Just an update on my last post. He did in fact come and apply for the job. He had a week here, spent time catching up with siblings and a couple of friends and we spent a lot of time together. It was wonderful and he was just a different person. So happy, making plans to move over here, how we would arrange our living circumstances, talking about the future etc. I even met some of his family. He went to the interview, met all the different bosses, got the job. He passed all the medicals but failed a drug test due to a prescription medication he had taken for the flight over. He doesnt take it often, but often enough for it to still be in his system. They rang his doctor, to check and clarify things, but near the end of his stay, they wanted him to retake the drug test. It meant travelling further, and getting more paperwork from his doctor. In the end, he didnt do it. He felt they were making him jump through more and more hoops. I understand how he felt, but obviously I was heartbroken. And I think he was equally disappointed. I cant help think he was also a little ashamed at having "failed". He did everything they asked of him. So it really knocked the wind out of both of us.
So now, he has flown home saying its back to the drawing board. He has given no indication that he will have another go at a similar job to be able to move here. But in the meantime, he has had a job offer for where he is currently living.
Naturally, I am worried now that he might give up and not try again to move over here. He has also gone a bit quiet too. Even though while he was here, he was so positive and upbeat.
Any ideas of how I should handle things now? I feel quite deflated. And I think he does too, although he isnt saying too much.
