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Triggered by someone's bad attitude
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Hello,
I suffer from Rejection Sensitive Disorder (RSD) and I need some reassurance when I feel anxious about a connection or relationship.
I recently started talking to this woman who confessed she had feelings for me. She would bathe me in compliments like 'you are soo special to me!' And 'you deserve the world.'
Well, her communication with me seemed a bit distant yesterday and I told her I noticed she seemed a bit distant and I wanted to know if she was OK.
Then she told me 'why does it matter to you if I'm distant? You've only known me for like a month.'
Her defensiveness and bad attitude really hurt me. Because I told her I need reassurance and I have relationship anxiety.
From 'you are so important to me' to 'you've only known me for a month.' Is hurtful. Because she made out the relationship seemed so important to her.
I told her the comment she made really hurt my feelings and I told her to not contact me again because twice now she has brought up that comment 'you've only known me for like a month.'
She seemed to love bomb me in the beginning and then when I ask if she is OK and I ask for reassurance, which I don't always do but when I did she became defensive and gave me a bad attitude.
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She posted on her social media account that I showed my true colours. Maybe I'm not a good person. She told people that I expected her to speak to me every single day at every single moment. But that's not true. She went quiet for a while and I was only trying to check in on her and she became defensive and disrespectful to me. Maybe I'm not a good person. Maybe I'm the problem. Everyone hates me in this world. Everyone hates me. My exes hate me. My ex best friend hates me. My mum who is estranged from me hates me. Every single person in this world hates me and thinks I'm a bad person.
For almost a month she was chatty and so consistent with her talking and then on this one day she went quirt and I just wanted to know if she was OK and she just was defensive and mean to me. And I told her it really hurt my feelings later on and then she posted on her social media I didn't accept her boundaries and I showed my true colours.