Hi all
I'm struggling to cope with recent events within my family.
A friend that I had trusted and welcomed into our family turned out to be grooming my daughters (17+18), successfully manipulating my eldest to believe she needed to leave home, and then began dating her. I did not see this coming at all. She was going to visit her grandparents for a few days and sent a text saying she was moving out. Her father rushed to try to talk her through the issues, which neither of us had any idea of as the night before she was laughing and joking on the end of our bed. A few days later we found out the friend was driving halfway across the country to visit her, and that they were dating. He is 49.
The sheer disgust of him wanting to touch her, coupled with the guilt of letting him into our lives, and the betrayal of our friendship and the pain of my daughter doing all of this behind our backs... I'm not OK.
I can't trust her, I've lost my friend (which apparently was all a lie anyway) and I'm spiralling into despair.
I'm so angry that I have poured so much of myself into both of them - talking him through his darkest moments, and raising her as best as I can between her semi regular poor life choices (we had her diagnosed with audhd because her impulse control and risk assessment were non existent... but she refuses to take her meds). Neither of them care what that has cost me. I feel like I have nothing left to give and in all honesty I feel like I need to cut her out of my life for my own well being. Obviously, he's not a friend any more, though I don't know if she is still dating him.
We have 2 children still at home, 15 and 17. They've been pillars of strength through this and I feel so bad that they aren't getting the life they deserve because of all the energy their sister sucks out of all of us.
I just need to talk it out I guess. It's already been a painfully long year and I feel very bleak.
