Broken and helpless

Dayz · ‎12-01-2026

Hi everyone,

I have just come out of a very toxic relationship with a meth addict. We have been on and off for 3 yrs, he has full custody of his 8yr old son and I have played mum as she isn't involved. When we met he told me he had been clean for 3 yrs. 6 weeks in everything started. He started using meth weekly and I found out he had only been off it for 3 months.

He has made so many promises to get help and stay off meth but it never sticks for more than 2 weeks. He was physically and verbally abusive more verbal than anything. He would kick me out every month then after a couple of days beg for me back. Every time I caved and believed his lies. I left him on new years day as he went out new years eve and cheated on me and stated at another woman's house.

His son has been taken out of his care because he was physically hurting him in the end the police r sorting him out for that.

But I am now homeless and couch surfing as my family r sick of helping me and then I go back. I feel so lost, hurt, betrayed and broken. I used to have a great life before I met him and now I have nothing. I don't know wat to do anymore

Alikiwi · ‎12-01-2026

Hi there,

That's really a tough situation and sadly all too common it seems. Seen plenty of rough times myself, but not quite like that. Quite a few similar examples around here, so you're not alone. Time to lock that door and move on and put yourself first. Make use of the support here and/or lifeline. I hope your family will be more supportive if they know you're done and dusted with him. Good luck, hope you feel better soon.

Dayz · ‎12-01-2026

Thank you

trying_my_best · ‎12-01-2026

Hi Dayz,

I am so sorry that this has happened to you! This experience is classed as abuse and you are so strong for taking yourself out of that environment and I would like to commend you for doing so!

Have you looked into any of your local domestic violence help centres or help lines? Maybe they can further assist in finding you somewhere to stay even short term.
Here’s the link to one helplines website, please don’t hestitate to reach out to them!
Or call 1800Respect
https://www.1800respect.org.au/?utm_source=Google+Hotline+DV+One+Box&utm_medium=search&utm_campaign=...

I was also wondering whether you have any family you can connect with who can help you? Family supports can often get cut off in situations such as yours. But it doesn’t mean it’s lost forever! If you’re not in contact with them maybe consider reaching out.

I want to commend you again for getting yourself out of that situation, it’s never a space anyone wants to end up in and the fact that you have come to seek help is amazing! I wish you the best of luck going forward!