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Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a ... View more

Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a negative way. As always, we want to hear your story and how it impacts you and encourage everyone to support each other with kindness. There are a few things to consider when posting in this section so we can all get the most out of it: Everyone’s situation is unique. We all do our best to share what is important in our story but we can never share it all. Let’s be mindful we can’t know all of everyone’s story. Anonymous but public. These posts are available to everyone and while the moderation team keeps the Forums anonymous, posts are still online for everyone to read. Have a think about what you want to share to get the best support for you. Please stay safe. This space is an amazing way to seek support from others who might understand what you are going through. We want to hear how you are going and what is happening for you. Please also consider 1800RESPECT if you don’t feel safe or 000 if you are in danger right now. You deserve to be safe. Thank you again for joining this conversation, your contributions are worthy and important to us here. Beyond Blue

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Guest_10029895 Being the black sheep and only treated nice when they want money
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My sister wanted to borrow $850 out of my locked account I have been at work all day and don’t get a brake to go down to bank I said no and have been abused put down and called names and wiped by both my sisters I am sick of feeling worthless

My sister wanted to borrow $850 out of my locked account I have been at work all day and don’t get a brake to go down to bank I said no and have been abused put down and called names and wiped by both my sisters I am sick of feeling worthless

Mazie Tapped by manipulation involving substance abuse
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My daughter and partner have health issues as do I. Children are involved age 6, 12 and 5 months. My daughter has not been well since the birth of the baby and her partner has health issues like fitting etc, but he plays on his health issues to manip... View more

My daughter and partner have health issues as do I. Children are involved age 6, 12 and 5 months. My daughter has not been well since the birth of the baby and her partner has health issues like fitting etc, but he plays on his health issues to manipulates my daughter for instance if she asked him to help with the baby, he will have a coughing fit, or he will go out smoking and come back in his own time. I had the family and their dog living with me for 9 days and I saw how her partner manipulates the situation and sucks up to me because he knows I'm not happy with him, also there are drugs involved, they both take drugs, and he carries a tinny with him as well. When he is supposed to look after the family, it ends me having to pick up the pieces and. I'm not well with osteoarthritis and needing an injection in my shoulder for a torn tendon. My daughter is so thin and not eating properly and the house is like a bomb hit it. I don't want to ring the authorities yet because it will destroy my daughter, but her partner is doing a good job of that, she can see what is but won't say anything to him, sometimes makes excuses for him like you can't push him or he will fit etc., they are both hooked on different drugs, and my fear is they will end up on even harder stuff. She takes care of the kids well but is not looking after herself. She has only me to turn to for help and I have no one for support or help. I simply do not know what to do. Like I mentioned it's easy to say report them, but the repositions will be bad. Two children do not belong to him it's a very hard sticky situation. it's like damned if I do and damned if I don't. The only way I would report them is if the children are in danger, but for the moment they are not in any danger. It's my daughter I'm worried about and as far as her partner goes, he is a manipulating person who is trying to weave his lack of responsibility with his charm which won't work with me, and he knows I'm onto him as being a liar and a lazy good for nothing. He is not helping my daughter in any way or form infarct because of his lack of responsibility and morals, he has dragged her down to the ground all he does is smoke, drink take drugs sleep and play the good villein when his is on a high. I've tried talking to her, but she makes excuses for him every time, like, you can't push him because he will fit, you can't do this or that because he will fit. I was asked to go shopping for her and get meds for her because he was unwell and in bed, when i turned up with the shopping he came from a neighbours place, happy full of life and I thought he was supposed to be not well, so why did my daughter not say ok you can go shopping and I'll ask mum not to bother , by the way I haven't been well with some flu bug. When I went into the house, he was so nice to me helping me etc., I was not impressed, then after when I was leaving, he walked me to the car and went back to his neighbour's house. My daughter could have even left her partner to watch the kids while she popped out, but no, I was called to drive almost half an hour for something they could have done themselves. I am not impressed.

AlostPosie Narc, menopause, & many other things
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Hello, I have been on here before......Im going to get straight to it. I am 54 years old i have been married 31 years now hubby and i both go to the gym 2 years ago a friend of ours from the gym is a bodybuilder now he has never won a title but has b... View more

Hello, I have been on here before......Im going to get straight to it. I am 54 years old i have been married 31 years now hubby and i both go to the gym 2 years ago a friend of ours from the gym is a bodybuilder now he has never won a title but has been doing it for 20 years so I asked him 2 years ago if he could help me loose weight, he put a plan together he asked me what was my goal i said loose weight mainly for a holiday and we had interactions in the gym with hubby there and the PT asked me to send before and after pics in my underwear, now at the time i did not think anything of it at all NOTHING I mean nothing... he asked me to pose in t he body building stance now moving forward 2 weeks ago, my husband found out that this guy is a sleeze and apparently does this to women and take them to bed. Now this did not happen and this definately was not my intention way way way out of this thought I love hubby but as always we have hand problems. So now he basically is accusing me of sleeping with him, talking to him, meeting up with coffee, he wont let me speak I am afraid to speak everytime he asks me and then he says my stories change its not that they change its that i also remember something else and add to the story so he says i am lying and not taking accountability for this, he suspects that i have told an old friend that i dont love him and that i want to leave him this is not the case. He kept picking and picking and picking at me about this it got to the point where i could not handle it as i know my thruth and he wants me to take accountability for something that was not done or intended. He messages friends for their opinions but does not use my name and then his friends agree with me then hubby shows me the messages and says see you are lying. I am so confused i dont know what to do anymore there is so much more to this in regards that he is a narc and does not let me talk over the years i have lost myself and today i am numb and i dont know how i feel i cant make decisions and i dont even know if i want to leave, we just purchased a new forever home our kids are 26 years plus. He wants me to admit to things i have not done I have turned around and told him its ok we can split and you can tell everyone i am a slut its ok i understand...this is because of the continuous torture of his words over and over again, we have had sex and then the next morning he starts with something else that he remembers or doesnt like my answers, i told him that i believe he is using me for sex now because we do and then we fight and its ugly fighting now i hide in my room to stay away We both went to a psychologist 2 weeks ago and he just left to see him on his own and i have my own psychologist to see in 2 weeks. I can post the messages he sends me and how he talks to me its vulgar I found trauma bond maybe this is me....

Guest_46736006 mis
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I have had a crush on a boy for over a year, and he didn't make any impression on me. And he is the one who stated it, but now I'm the one who obsesses over him. i wanna move on because I know that there is no future for us, but my crazy heart doesn'... View more

I have had a crush on a boy for over a year, and he didn't make any impression on me. And he is the one who stated it, but now I'm the one who obsesses over him. i wanna move on because I know that there is no future for us, but my crazy heart doesn't wanna move on, and I'm having a really hard time because of that. I tried to stop things and start to moving on, but I'm coming back to the same stage

Guest_74094184 Coparenting mess - mention of DV
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My son came home a week ago with hand prints where his dad had struck him. There were 3 hours between when it happened, and when my son came home. It was so red. I reported it to CPS & police, took my son to GP & got him a scan to review any potentia... View more

My son came home a week ago with hand prints where his dad had struck him. There were 3 hours between when it happened, and when my son came home. It was so red. I reported it to CPS & police, took my son to GP & got him a scan to review any potential tissue damage.I’ve applied for legal aid and family mediation. my sons due to go back to his dads, and he’s expressed he’s scared to go back, and he doesn’t want to live there anymore (50-50 shared arrangement currently).He’s emotionally abusive, to both my son and I. He’s beat up his fiancé on different occasions in the past. He calls my son fat & dumb. He has alienated me to our son as much as he could. And according to my son, the last time his dad had left marks him, his dad said “if the teachers ask, say that was the dog”. I am stumped on what to do. I have received insane, unhinged, and illiterate messages from him, but he calls me mentally unstable??? I cannot send my boy back there without some kind of guarantee this won’t happen again.Today is supposed to be handover day but there’s no way I’m releasing my son into his care. He also kicked out our 10 year old son out last Monday, and asked me to have him longer. Then at the drop of a hat wants him back because he misses him. I have been getting my son help but I’m so worried about his well-being. I can’t stop wondering if I’ve done the right thing

Pleaseonly1 WMy soulmate needs to move on after 27 years
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So after 27 of the best years of my life my wife turned to me and said she needs to start the next phase of her life. Without me. Two weeks before my 50th birthday. 2 beautiful adult children. Both too stressed to talk to me. I am so lost. I love her... View more

So after 27 of the best years of my life my wife turned to me and said she needs to start the next phase of her life. Without me. Two weeks before my 50th birthday. 2 beautiful adult children. Both too stressed to talk to me. I am so lost. I love her so dearly. I can't believe it. I cry every hour. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I literally dream of her. I still feel her presence in bed next to me, on sofa's. We did everything together. I tried to save it but was told she has fallen out of love with me. Rocked me to my core. Trying to move on but can barely breathe.So sad. So heartbroken. So scared. So lost.

Bridgo Injury affecting mental health
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Hi, mid Aug I was helping my husband cart some heavy wood & I have torn a tendon in my elbow. I went to physio for 1 session a compression bandage was put on too tight, nearly 2 months in I'm practically bed ridden, I have begun to experience panic a... View more

Hi, mid Aug I was helping my husband cart some heavy wood & I have torn a tendon in my elbow. I went to physio for 1 session a compression bandage was put on too tight, nearly 2 months in I'm practically bed ridden, I have begun to experience panic attacks where I cry shake uncontrollably and feel very anxious, I started feeling like this when work stopped replying to my updates on my injury. I sometimes scream at the top of my lungs and get short of breath I feel so useless. My husband is supportive but after 7 weeks of him having to feed me, cook, clean do all the things I did it's difficult for him. Just wondering if anyone out there has had a similar experience. Thanks

Em_ My story
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I've been friends with this girl for a few years and recently everything has been going downhill. It started small, little comments, I've had issues with my weight and how I look for a while as well as struggling with mental health issues, and my fri... View more

I've been friends with this girl for a few years and recently everything has been going downhill. It started small, little comments, I've had issues with my weight and how I look for a while as well as struggling with mental health issues, and my friend has been commenting on my weight. About a month ago I was in a bad place with my mental health (and she knew it because I confided in her) and she told me to kill myself. This made my mental health even worse. I don't talk about mental health issues much with my parents and I was scared on how they were going to react so I got up the courage an told my mother what happened. She ended up telling my father and he called me out, it thought I was going to get into trouble, he ended up telling me that I had to tell someone at school (all that happened Friday). So on Monday I went to the office and talked to someone there. They told me they would talk to the girl about what happened and told me to ignore her (I can't really because she's in my class). A few hours later they called me back to the office to tell me that she didn't remember what she said and got off scot free. I ended up also talking to my year advisor as well as someone from my school's wellbeing hub. Today at school a boy in my class called me racist for no reason (he asked the girl why we weren't friends anymore and she said that I was racist, never was never will be) and I went to the office and someone from the wellbeing hub came down to get me and I spent the whole of recess and third period in the wellbeing hub calming down and reading. I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I needed to get it off my chest. I need help to know what to do next if I need to talk to anyone

Weaponsofmassdisstortion Something I regret....
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You know, looking back I have missed out on a lot of chances for creating freindships. There was people back in my high school years who tried to reach out to me. I think they were geniune, because they never tried to make things hard for me I rebuke... View more

You know, looking back I have missed out on a lot of chances for creating freindships. There was people back in my high school years who tried to reach out to me. I think they were geniune, because they never tried to make things hard for me I rebuked thier advances, I didn't want their pity. I didn't need their companionship. I cursed them out. Told them in quite langauge to go away. I have done something like this even more recently. I wish I could go back and apologise. Let them know I just saw everyone as another source of pain. I was bieng bullied quite severly. I didn't want to go to school. But I didn't want to go home either. I was in pure survival mode. My defense were always up. I was full of rage. Because that was better than being sad. God I am so sorry to those people. But they probably have lives of their own now and I doubt they even give me a second thought.

booga need help apologising to an ex friend
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almost a year ago, a friend and i fell out and had an argument. we havent talked in nearly a year, n this past year ive realised how bad of a friend ive been to him (ive said awful things to him, treated him unfairly etc) however, im not interested i... View more

almost a year ago, a friend and i fell out and had an argument. we havent talked in nearly a year, n this past year ive realised how bad of a friend ive been to him (ive said awful things to him, treated him unfairly etc) however, im not interested in going back to being friends with him because at times hes made me feel uneasy.now, this isnt to say im a victim, if anything i was worse to him than he was to me, and i dont really want to repeat the things ive said to him because it disgusts me how i behaved to him.to the point, im afraid to apologise. i want to be better and the first step is to apologise to those ive wronged. however, i dont know how he'll react to it, and i struggle with paranoia and a particular worry i have is that he'll hurt me if i apologise (i doubt he will but again, paranoia)i have the apology written as a draft on my old school email, but im scared to click send. i just want this niggling guilt off my shoulders and i dont know if hes moved on or not and if i should just let it be

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