Hello,
Welcome and thank you for reaching out to us.
Your situation sounds very untenable and I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.
Your wish to support your partner is a noble one but there is only so much you can do, the rest is up to your partner to manage his own mental health. Is he currently seeking any medical help or counselling for his anger and grief?
In your current physical state and with a toddler to take care of, you can't be the only one giving support, you need to be receiving it also and it doesn't sound like you are being considered at all at present. Do you have family or friends you could stay with for a while to give yourself a break from the constant tension? Failing that, is there someone your partner can stay with for a while. Your current situation is not healthy for you, your toddler or the unborn child you are carrying, but I think you already know that.
If your partner has not sought help, then he needs to do so.
I think you could also benefit from some support in the way of therapy yourself. Perhaps start by having a chat to your GP about the way things are and how you are feeling and take it from there.
We will also be here to support you, I am happy to continue this conversation if you are comfortable doing so.
Take good care of yourself and your children first, your partner is an adult and needs to take care of himself.
Thinking of you,
indigo
