This guy is always in my mind

[Guest_71772299]

Hello

I really want to tell this to someone so I get it of my chest…

Some months ago I met this guy at a church group. At first I didn’t really notice him.

After seeing him a few times in this church group I notice he was staring at me from afar.

occasionally he would come and say hi.

My conversation skills are not great plus I’m a really shy person so it’s hard for me to keep a conversation going with a new person.

I followed him on instagram and he followed me back.

he looks at my stories every time I post one.

now he is always on my mind.

morning, afternoon and night.

I have no idea what to do about it……

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

The first thing to acknowledge is to give him the impression that you are friendly and that you like him as a person. To do that isnt easy being shy but here are some ideas-

• find a way to give him your phone number be it on Instagram or other way. That way you or him can text and that makes things easier.
• Take an interest in him and his life, hobbies, sports. Ask questions, ask, ask, ask, That way he does all the talking and he will know you like him.
• As your pastor/priest if he knows more about him
• Ask about his knowledge on the bible, your religion is your first common interest. Ask him his greatest knowledge about it, he'll tell you a section eg Luke, then have your number written on a piece of paper and ask him if he can call you to discuss this in more detail.
• "Do you like biscuits"? is a good question. "You want to try some of mine"? Whatever he says "you'll have to visit and watch me make them".

Remember- if you dont do some of these basic communications then he'll move onto someone else. Any effort will be worthwhile.

I used to be shy, every time I'd hesitate the girl would be asked out by another guy.

TonyWK