oooo, do l hear you op.
l met my sadly now ex under similar circumstances. She was already here though but due to a divorce was having major visa problems as the ex caused a ton of trouble with immigration for her, it took 4yrs of hell and courts for her to get through. l'd just been through D myself to though and so l wasn't about to just jump in. Anyway, very long story.
What's jumping out at me in your post though is that one, no attraction, that's pretty big but also a pretty basic need- we need that. Doesn't matter if your both 200kg , just as long as you both feel that about the person and attraction. But 2, you don't seem to have the other basics , such as seeing things similarly,feeling similar ways- love ofc too, just basics 2people need to even want to go further in the first place.
There is one thing you could ask yourself though. Me, l started to get v negative with ex and about her, things about her, but the trouble was her visa and whole situation was such a damn concern to me bc it looked like she might not be able to stay and as you know that's huge expense and complications to fight- but yet really, l hardly knew her. lt was all back to front , which made me get very negative and a self sabotagy type thing.
Do you think this might be something like that for you,interfering emotionally, or do you know in your heart those negatives are real and separate?
Does he have the visa money and other stuff ?
Just thinking if you did feel your sabotaging some, but he is funding himself, you could go on and just feel how it all plays out for you and true feelings about him.
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