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So lonely and feel unwanted, in a sexless marriage

Stephen87
Community Member

Look I love my wife I really do, but the last 7-8 years it’s been so hard to be sexual with each other, I mean I have been more then patient with my wife and yes a lot has been going on with medical stuff, but to me I just feel that she doesn’t want to do stuff anymore, I mean for example, one day she will be in so much pain that she’s in bed all day, then the next she is sore but much better, I’ll try and hint at her to do stuff or try and get her in the mood and she will be like not now I’m too sore, but she is ok to do house work all day and clean the garage out and drive to her mums, but she is not even willing to try and get in the mood, I don’t know if anyone out there has these issues but I struggle sometimes and feel like I don’t turn her on anymore, I mean yes I’m older and have put weight on, not a lot but some and have lost 2 of my front teeth when someone slammed a metal door into my face and because of her medical cost I can’t afford to fix my teeth, but I’m not ugly or much different other then that, and I’m not being rude but she has put weight on and is older then me and her body has changed, but I love her body and always want it but I feel she hates my body, again anyone out there that has been through this?

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Flora25
Community Member

Hi Stephen,

I hear you.

I am similar to your wife. My husband says similar things like you. We are in our sixties, been together for 30 years, 2 adult children, one still living at home. Over the last couple of years I have suffered from major depression. I love my husband, but I have NO libido (depression/hormones). Rebuild the romance, dinners out, movies, walks along the beach without any "expectations" or getting her in the mood, so you say. These types of activities build a closer bond/connection and over time your wife may well relax and unwind and be more affectionate. It's not about looks it's about connection. I hope that helps 🙂