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Sexual Health and the Idea of Never Having a Partner

Azzdog
Community Member

Hi everyone, I'm not sure how to put this but hopefully it will make sense.

I am a 24 year old male who currently is in therapy and sees a psychologist regularly. I have OCD, anxiety, depression, and autism, and when you put those all together, it becomes understandable why socialising is a major problem for me. One major cause of my current situation is the fact that I have never hd a girlfriend or had sex. Because we live in the digital age, it is almost impossible to avoid the fact that a lot of people are in relationships and that modern society is obsessed with the concept of sex. You would almost have to live on a deserted island in order to completely avoid all the triggers associated with it.

My cause of concern is that I have no one that I can relate to on this and that I feel like I struggle to articulate how bad it is for my mental health. My psychologist says that I am well in the normal distribution for young men but that doesn't really make me feel any better. Because I am shy, introverted, and have a lot of hobbies and interests that are not in line with contemporary society, I genuinely feel like I will never have a girlfriend, never have sex, and die alone. This fact alone has meant in the past 6 months, I have had 5 separate stints in a psychiatric ward due to concerns of my own safety. I was wondering if there are any other young men out there who feel the same way and are currently in the same boat, and if there are any young mens health groups around? I feel the latter would be important for me and reassure me that I am not the only one who feels this way.

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I have been feeling this way for well over 10 years. I have put so much effort into building my life and keep hitting road blocks. I feel so jaded and cynical about life that I dont have much hope for the future.

 

I have a safety plan but I dont know what to do anymore. I want practical strategies to solve my problems. I dont want vague platitudes and cliches. I WANT TO START LIVING NOW AND ACTUALLY HAVE A LIFE WORTH LIVING

Does anyone else feel the slow, creeping feeling of death creeping up on them? I do

I hate the fact that all I seem to do is exist. I dont want to talk to professional supports I just want a life worth living. how much more effort do I need to put in I am on the canvass right now life is so unfair