Sabotaging a new friendship
I just read your post and can I suggest that you relax and let her come to you. I don't know the whole story but please don't be too hard on yourself it's probably nothing you have done maybe it's just her?
I've had to learn myself when to pursue friendships and when to let them go. Either way time will tell whether she wants to pursue a friendship with you through her actions.
Some questions I would ask myself is (hypothetical only); are you sure she didn't want to pursue a romantic relationship with you? Maybe she assumed you were unmarried or unhappily married? Secondly, was there an ulterior motive or interest possibly?
Apologies for sounding suspicious but sometimes we do have to ask ourselves these questions, looking at it objectively rather than so subjectively.
I would remain polite and pleasant around her but if she's not responding to you I would be inclined to move on. You will eventually meet like minded people who want to be your friend not treat you as a 'project'.
Hope this helps.
Hello Meems, and a warm welcome to you as well as Chosen Sister.
It's great you both get on really well, however, your psychologist knows that a close relationship with a client is not suggested, I'm sorry, she realises that her profession could be damaged because it could affect your counselling.
The relationship between you and her has to be close so that you can open up to her, but this has to happen in her office, because she has agreed that she keeps her professional boundaries are in place.
Can I give you an example, if the two of you do go out and become close, then when a point is raised in your session, the tempermant of talking to each other may change sufficiently, not as a psychologist to patient.
There could be ways for this to change and perhaps that's what you need to discuss with her.
I'm very sorry to say this and by no means want to upset you.