Replies/comments not showing up on YouTube to my videos/comments - are they being mean?

Earth Girl

I made a video and put it on YouTube. I received my first comment for it about a month ago, but when I checked it, it wasn't there anymore. I looked it up and it said that YouTube sometimes deletes comments that aren't nice so I thought that may be why it got deleted (which it could be), but recently, when I have made comments on YouTubes and shorts videos, it will say that I have received a reply for it, but doesn't show up and I'm not sure why and it's happened a lot lately so I don't think it's just YouTube deleting replies.

I was wondering if anyone knows what could be going on and if there is a way I can see them? Also, YouTube doesn't always notify me when I have received a like, comment or reply so could someone please explain to me if there is a way I can get it to do so each time? It didn't notify me when I received a comment on my video.

If they are negative comments/replies that I have received, can someone give me some advice on how to go about it and not let it weigh me down too much? I know these things are going to sometimes hurt, especially comments on a YouTube video and especially since this is my first YouTube video, but it would be great to have some advice on how to keep my head up when people are being mean.

white knight

Hi Earth girl

Going through life we regularly come face to face with lessons learned and often they are learned the hard way. Once you accept that it is easier to go through the process "oh, well thats another lesson learned, no problem" rather than feeling the world is going to cave in.

So one of these "mistakes" is giving friends the benefit of the doubt, having faith in them that they HAVENT posted a nasty comment. Ok, imagine the scenario- you approach a friend and they admit they posted a comment on your video a week ago. You begin to accuse them of being nasty. After a 2 minute rant they say to you "did you read my comment" You admit you didnt as it isnt on the comments of the video so then they say "I posted a lovely video and commended you for making a great first video". So then you do some more enquiries with youtube and say you found the comment, or there was a feature on your comment section of your computer that prevents comments appearing... suddenly you appear a little bit, no a LOT of remorse. You apologise to your friend but guess what, she knows you dont trust her and that real friendship is gone forever.

So to prevent this, have two strategies- 1. You always ask nicely if that person posted anything and joke with then giving them the benefit of the doubt. Then they are likely to tell you what they posted. Let them know you cant see their comment and they might open up their own youtube show you ... or if its deleted seem shocked its no longer there. This show always be discussed face to face between you and the person, include nobody else. Thats the 2nd scenario- if you tell someone else and the word gets back "yeh, she thinks you and everyone else posted nasty comments because they were deleted". Then you have a bigger problem- you lose more than one friend, suddenly your world collapses.

School studies include many topic but they dont include how you keep friends or make friends, this is where life is hard.

So, I'm glad to spoke up, it could save you a lot of grief.

"sunshine is great but there's a risk of it going away when we make our own clouds..." TonyWK

TonyWK

Earth Girl

Hi Tony!

Sorry, this isn't related to any friends, just random strangers on the internet. I can see why it may have seemed that way because I posted this in the friends and relationships section. I didn't know where would be best to post it.

This was still really good advice though! I shall remember this if anything like this comes up. I had a friend who thinks I wronged her badly when I was actually trying to help and get someone else to try to see things from her point of view and she's telling everyone what she thinks I did and also saying really mean things like going on about how ugly I look and those are the minor things she said. Her Dad is also getting involved in the bullying and they want me to know the things that they are saying about me.

In this friendship though, I feel like she was the sunshine one because she was really kind to me, especially when I was going through the worst time of my life. I don't know what I should do about it though because I don't have a way of contacting her. (This is unrelated to what I posted, but it's related to your reply).

white knight

No problem. I suppose when I post a video any good reply is a bonus, any bad reply I ignore.

Computers are problematic lol

TonyWK

Earth Girl

Haha, yeah, you've just got to ignore the bad replies, I guess. YouTube can be messy indeed.

Thanks Tony. 🙂

white knight

easier said than done Earth girl. I suppose the benefits of new age communication devices that are truly amazing must have a negative side. Imagine, when I was 25yo in 1981 we had to wait till we got home to ring anyone and when not at home we didnt know they had rang us.... LOL.

TonyWK

Earth Girl

Haha, that would be annoying. I'm glad we have this newer communication now even if it comes with a downside. Easier than it was when you were 25. 🙂

white knight

My grand parent used an old wall phone, you picked up the earpiece about as big as a coffee cup, put it to your ear then right hand you turned a rotating handle for the internal magneto to charge the phone line then spoke to an operator in the nearest town and he/she connected you to the phone number you wanted. It's the main reason gossip spread through towns because the operator could listen in to conversations.

With no electronics phone systems called the step by step would get jammed and you'd get a crossed line. You could listen to other people talking in town and sometimes it was about you!!. So you knew who your friends weren't. lol.

TonyWK

Earth Girl

Hahaha, that's wild.

It's very interesting that instead of dialing a number, they had to speak to an operator that would connect you to the number/person you wanted to talk to and that they could hear what the people's conversations. It wouldn't be fun to hear people talking about you on the phone.

Thanks for giving me good strategies of what I can do if something like me thinking people are talking about me happens. 🙂