I've reached my limit

[Shar12345]

I can do it anymore. I'm at single mum with a 16 yr old daughter at home and a 21 yr old that live with his dad.

I work full-time and pick up any extra work I can. I'm going through divorce and financial separation.

Mortgage, car issues, solicitors bills blah blah. I'm burnt out.

Today my daughter tells me she's been thinking out suicide. She tried last year. I've tried to get her help but she just won't take it. I don't know what to do anymore.

I want her father to come get her but that will do absolutely nothing for her mental health.

I can't do this anymore. 

[Sophie_M]

Hi there, I’m really glad you reached out, even though things feel so overwhelming right now.

You’ve got a huge amount on your plate. Working full-time, going through a separation, financial pressure, and trying to support your daughter through something so serious. Anyone in your position would be struggling, feeling burnt out and at their limit.

Hearing that your daughter is having suicidal thoughts, especially after what happened last year, is incredibly frightening. It’s also really hard when you’re trying to get her help and she won’t engage. That can leave you feeling stuck and alone in it.

Right now, the most important thing is that you don’t have to carry this on your own. There are supports for both you and your daughter in this situation. You can contact the Beyond Blue Support Service on 1300 22 4636, or Lifeline on 13 11 14, they can talk this through with you and help you figure out next steps and what othr support options might be available for you.

For your daughter, Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) is available 24/7 and they also offer webchat if she’s more comfortable with that.

If at any point you’re worried about her immediate safety, please call 000 it’s okay to get urgent help.

You are doing everything you can in a really difficult situation. We’re here with you, and you’re welcome to keep sharing.

Kind regards,
Sophie M

[smallwolf]

hello and welcome to the forums.

even if you were to put your daughter's issues to one side, there is a lot happening for you at the present moment.

This might seem a little odd, but your daughter trusts you enough to tell you what she is thinking. That says something important about the relationship you have with her, even in the middle of all this stress and exhaustion.

And you have come here to write about what's happening, and you care very much for her as well. I hope you don't mind me saying this ...you also have to look after yourself. Constantly carrying work, financial pressure, parenting, and fear for someone you love can wear a person down!

I'm wondering if there is anyone you feel comfortable to talk to? Even your GP might be able to point you in the right direction?

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