Relationship going no where
Hi Samantha welcome
Firstly we only hear one side if the story so its difficult to comment. However, as you work and he doesn't, even when recovering from an injury, there are sine obligations he has to meet.
Google this: Topic:who cares for the carer- beyondblue
In terms of abuse, don't take it. I was an emotionally abused husband for 11 years. I wouldn't tolerate it now. But also review if there is anything at all you can change yourself.
Thank you for you input, much appreciated. Its easy to say don't put up with abuse, but its not that simple. I always thought that a couple should be able to discuss anything but my husband blows up immediately and starts yelling even when the boys are home and in the room, which is toxic for them, I have actually asked him to leave but he just stays, there are days that go by with no conversation at all, why - he is quite happy to just sit on the couch and read his phone all day and I can't speak to him because I feel so mad and frustrated that he yells at me and never apologises or finish an argument, each time it gets no where.
I used to have the same happen to me, except my ex wasn't injured and would just come home cranky from work and sit on his phone. You definitely do not deserve the emotional and verbal abuse. You deserve a respectful relationship. If he tells you to get over it, have you asked him what his thoughts are if you walk away from it?
Look after yourself first and foremost - you can't fix others, and your children need to see what respectful relationships look like.