Post Separation Doubts
Not really sure how to start this reply so might just jump into it.
I suppose the end of your marriage has created a bit of a hole in your life - the other person is no longer there. And perhaps a hole to fill for the loss? Wondering if you made the right decision. You said in your post that you felt emotionally abandoned. So if you were to go back, would you be able to accept this feeling? Or has your husband changed the way he acts towards you? I don't think there is ever a right or wrong answer, but to just do the best you can. With all of that said, do you have a friend you could talk this through?
I think the feelings you are experiencing are normal for you and that is all that matters. We each react differently to any situation.
I can listen and reply to you and maybe act as a sounding board. I hope something in my reply made sense.
The conversations I had, all turned out ok. But it was unnatural for me - doubts. Did I say the right thing. What would they think about me. The more I do these things the more comfortable it should become.
So you might then question your own actions? Perhaps write down the reasons why you took this action? Or explore the doubts some more?
Hello The Prize.
The emotional sadness you are experiencing is to be expected. Separating from a husband of more than twenty years is bound to cause doubts. You write that you had been unhappy for a long time and no doubt you waited patiently (hoping things would change) until the inevitable break up. It sounds like you haven’t made the decision lightly and that is to your credit.
You are not solely responsible for the feelings of your children and husband. Separation does cause pain to all concerned and it just has to be accepted. It is a natural consequence of a failed marriage that millions of people have experienced. Try and embrace the sadness as a rational reaction to your situation. The sadness is temporary, like any loss in life, the acute unhappiness will become lighter and you will become stronger and happier.