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Newly Separated

EzzBea
Community Member

Hi all,

I am unsure of what I need but need a place to let my hurt out.

My world as I knew it came crashing down 3 weeks ago.

An argument about trust and poor judgement turned into me finding out that my husband of 17years (20 yrs together) kissed our 20yr old aupair (he's 40). I didn't see it coming. We where having a rocky patch but wasn't major and nothing we hadn't got through in the past. He says he took the cowards way out. I deserved so much more respect and so did our children.

Our marriage is over and unsalvageable but all these emotions are kicking my arse.

We live in a small country town and no one I know saw this coming but them.

We have 3 children, 14, 10 & 8. I stayed in the family home with them for routine and stability.

How do I get through this.

TIA

11 Replies 11

I have started that process.

thank you

EzzBea
Community Member

7 weeks into separation and my ex has emailed me.... to tell me his 20yr old girlfriend is coming back to our small town for a while and he will tell the children on the holidays.

just when you think things will settle down.